Why do some men (and women) look better with age? (single, attractiveness)
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it probably doesn't have much to do with your looks, just that it's easier to meet women as a late twenties/thirties guy than a teenaged/early twenties guy
physically i didn't get any better looking in my late 20s than i was when i was younger - i've always looked fine. but nevertheless it got easier for me to pick up women at that age. it's not a looks things. it's a social dynamic thing. just enjoy it
If someone is attractive when they're young, they'll be attractive(relative to their age) when they're older
Unless something unusual happens in between. Like lindsay Lohan for example
I disagree. I see people I knew when I was younger, they were the beautiful people in high school..Now they make me feel good about myself..Most of them have gained weight, they've gone bald..They just didn't age well. Or life itself just kind of beat them down.
If someone is attractive when they're young and they make the conscience effort to stay fit, then maybe they'll still be attractive when they're older. But it's no guarantee.
A lot of the young hotties today are going to be wrecked by tanning beds by the time they turn 30.
Sounds like you grew into your looks. I can't tell you how many lanky, dorky-looking guys in high school looked like they walked out of the pages of GQ by the time they hit 30. Ugly-duckling girls bloom into swans in their teens. With guys, it all happens later on the continuum.
The best part is that most former ugly ducklings and lanky dorks developed other traits and qualities--sense of humor, various talents, intellectual pursuits--to make up for their lack of physical attractiveness, and also have the compassion that comes from knowing what it's like to be bullied or an outcast. They end up being head and shoulders above the rest because their hearts and minds were beautiful first, and now their bodies and faces have simply caught up. They are the epitome of the "total package."
It’s the old adage about the tortoise and hare. Genetically-fortunate people who are attractive in youth later disregard fitness and diet, making poor choices inimical to long-term physical beauty. Others, less fortunate in the genetic lottery, seek to compensate by good practice. Eventually time catches up with all, though to be sure, mere effort is no guarantee of success.
But I would hesitate to draw a distinction between the teens and late 20s, as in the OP; more like teens and 40s or 50s.
I think the older we get the more confident we are in ourselves, which people find attractive. Physically it's probably a combination of taking care of ourselves and knowing how to play up our assets. I think I look better now than I did 20 years ago, which I think is a combination of all the above, especially the confidence thing. I had very little confidence when I was younger and it probably showed. I'm sure good genes play a role also. Some people just don't age well.
... Looking in the mirror, it is nice to know that I have aged gracefully and have gotten better looking as the years have gone by....
Aged gracefully into you late 20s?
I think most men and women, if they can keep their hair and teeth, don't get strung out on drugs and can maintain their bodies, look better in their late 20s through 30s.
You also have a wider range of ages available to you. At 18 you wouldn't date a 13-year-old, but at 28 you certainly wouldn't be out of line dating a 23-year-old.
These older women (late 20s) will also judge you less and less on trivial appearances and more and more on your personality, education, income, etc.
I think the older we get the more confident we are in ourselves, which people find attractive. Physically it's probably a combination of taking care of ourselves and knowing how to play up our assets. I think I look better now than I did 20 years ago, which I think is a combination of all the above, especially the confidence thing. I had very little confidence when I was younger and it probably showed. I'm sure good genes play a role also. Some people just don't age well.
I agree with this, especially in regards to confidence. I'm hoping I follow my grandmother & mum... they look younger than their years.
I think losing baby fat helps some men and a few women. With boyish-looking men, developing a mature hairline, the lips thinning a bit, etc. might add a point in attractiveness.
Most women ignore the decent men when they are young and chase after the men who aren't a very good match for them.
And then, with time, experience, age, and probably a divorce or three, they wise up.
Or maybe they don't wise up but simply run out of options.
Time, age, and experience (especially bad and wasteful experience) take their toll on attractiveness (physical/emotional/spiritual) and while some women may become more desirable because of it, most become less so.
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