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Oh for Chrissake, a foreign country? Canada is hardly foreign...and you're still in North America anyhow.
Too many excuses. Find your bootstraps and give em a yank. Dont use your two-timing boyfriend-roommate as an excuse for why you stay there, in Canada.
Do you work? Are you in school? Sit down, figure out how you are going to get yourself out of your current situation. If that means a second job, so be it. But the changes made to your circumstances have to be made by you.
For having a laundry list of requirements in a man, think about how you would add up on a list like that. You cant even take care of yourself enough to leave a man thats cheating on you
Well in case you didn't read, I'm a full-time student in Canada. I'm not going to ditch my school to live with my family in the US.
Yeah, well I'm not actively looking for that men yet. I am thinking about a man for AFTER I graduate university in Canada, and AFTER I move back to the US with my degree.
Even if I was living alone and single here, I wouldn't even want to look for a boyfriend, because obviously that won't work in the long run with my plans to move back to US.
Well in case you didn't read, I'm a full-time student in Canada. I'm not going to ditch my school to live with my family in the US.
Yeah, well I'm not actively looking for that men yet. I am thinking about a man for AFTER I graduate university in Canada, and AFTER I move back to the US with my degree.
Even if I was living alone and single here, I wouldn't even want to look for a boyfriend, because obviously that won't work in the long run with my plans to move back to US.
Yes, not only do we all read, but most of us have been alive a good deal longer than you and have a much larger stock of accrued wisdom.
We're also very good at reading between the lines. Here you are still sleeping with a guy who cheats on you, while posting multiple times online for a monogamous guy who can fulfill a list of requirements seventeen pages long.
So okay. You're in university. Big whoop. Crash on someone's sofa there. You really don't want out of this situation badly enough if you're not willing to do this.
Yes, not only do we all read, but most of us have been alive a good deal longer than you and have a much larger stock of accrued wisdom.
We're also very good at reading between the lines. Here you are still sleeping with a guy who cheats on you, while posting multiple times online for a monogamous guy who can fulfill a list of requirements seventeen pages long.
So okay. You're in university. Big whoop. Crash on someone's sofa there. You really don't want out of this situation badly enough if you're not willing to do this.
Like I said, just because you've been alive longer doesn't mean you're wiser or smarter -- c'mon, that's pretty obvious. Wisdom comes from a variety of experiences, challenges, and mishaps encountered. If you're someone who has spent most of your life living off your rich parents' money, sitting around inside eating and playing whatever you please ever so comfortably, chances are you haven't learned that much. I've learned quite a few lessons myself. I have had all kinds of traumatic experiences which matured me quicker than most of my generally sheltered American peers.
And there is no harm in thinking and planning around a guy for my future. Actually, preparation is always a good idea. Figuring out where my best chances of finding a more particular type of man a year or two down the line, what is the harm in that? Having some standards and a vague idea of the sort of man I'd like, and a list of deal-breakers is, as I have learned, a terrific idea. It's not like I'm trying to find someone right now, and I have no interest in (technically) cheating on my current "boyfriend", whom my relationship with is more of a domestic partnership than romantic one.
And how do you know whether we are even still sleeping together? That has certainly diminished greatly since finding out what I did as of late. To want to have sex with someone, I have to love him.
So sorry mister, your attacks are still not legitimate in my eyes.
I'd like to live somewhere where my chances of finding a man fitting the following characteristics is higher than average:
-clean shaven
-dresses well, at least tries to match
-is educated
-does not follow any religion
-likes socialism and thinks taxation is necessary to a properly functioning country; supports the Affordable Care Act and knows it's the same as Obamacare
-wants a monogamous, long-term relationship
-would never go to a strip club, cheat, hire a sugar baby etc.
-enjoys art galleries, travelling
-is vegetarian
-doesn't like sports so much
So young, so idealistic. You are still a student not making a good income. Wait until you are making good amount of $$ and pay more in taxes to support the people who don't work as hard.
Right now you are still a student so a man like that isn't going to be interested in someone that doesn't support herself.
Wow. For someone who claims to be liberal and enlightened, you sure do like to indulge in cheap and rather lazy stereotypes. Let's see. You don't like Vancouver because it is, what is the phrase you use, "far too Chinese/Asian." You categorize an entire region of the country as "redneck states," apparently based on watching far too many episodes of In The Heat Of The Night on Nickelodeon. So now, in your hunt for the ideal man, you're not just content to rule out dietary preferences and political views. You're drawing a giant red X over entire regions of the country. Since when is bigotry and snobbery considered to be smart and cultured?
What's more, you don't even see the other ugly hypocrisies in this post. Here you are wanting a monogamous man, but you're casting about looking for someone better. If your boyfriend is really cheating on you, then demand integrity of yourself by picking up and leaving. Go back to whatever place you call home, crash on a friend's couch for a week or two while you put your life together.
Well that left out San Francisco which seems to fit well with what she is looking for, except the demographic of the Asian population is similar to Vancouver.
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By the way, if Vancouver wasn't the most expensive country in North America, I'd totally keep living here. The fact it's around 60% Asian (mostly Chinese) is just an additional reason why I don't feel at home here.
I've been to Vancouver and that sounded wrong, so Wikipedia'd Vancouver and it is less than 30% Chinese.
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If the OP wants someone who is so similar to herself and is still in a relationship with someone else - I still don't understand why she wouldn't just move somewhere that she thought she'd fit in instead. I mean, if she is looking for someone with all her same interests - wouldn't they enjoy living in the same place? I don't understand why she is planning the move for a relationship that she isn't ready for when she should really just be looking for a place that she will enjoy living.
If the OP wants someone who is so similar to herself and is still in a relationship with someone else - I still don't understand why she wouldn't just move somewhere that she thought she'd fit in instead. I mean, if she is looking for someone with all her same interests - wouldn't they enjoy living in the same place? I don't understand why she is planning the move for a relationship that she isn't ready for when she should really just be looking for a place that she will enjoy living.
^^^^ That makes perfect sense.
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By the way, if Vancouver wasn't the most expensive country in North America, I'd totally keep living here. The fact it's around 60% Asian (mostly Chinese) is just an additional reason why I don't feel at home here.
Vancouver is a country?
WTF kind of University are you attending?
Christ on a cracker.
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