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No. I'm just realistic in life. Thanks for asking and prepare for the women to barrage your comment. I like a compliment, so what's the crime in that? I don't go out seeking it by saying, "Hey, look at my shirt, what do you think about it?" If they comment on their own will great. If not, I still like my shirt.
I asked because complements and reassurances are what women seek to feel confident. The only problem with this is that it will be hard for you to find a woman who will be more feminine than you so she could accept you as anything other than a friend. Women do not respect guys who are LESS confident then them.
They could use you but never love you.
I asked because complements and reassurances are what women seek to feel confident. The only problem with this is that it will be hard for you to find a woman who will be more feminine than you so she could accept you as anything other than a friend. Women do not respect guys who are LESS confident then them.
They could use you but never love you.
If you knew my past, you would think differently. Who I've transitioned into now, is not the person I've ever been before. I like to dress nice and catch a compliment here and there. That has nothing to do with being feminine. When I have an SO, they have complimented me. I don't think that's a crime...
If you knew my past, you would think differently. Who I've transitioned into now, is not the person I've ever been before. I like to dress nice and catch a compliment here and there. That has nothing to do with being feminine. When I have an SO, they have complimented me. I don't think that's a crime...
I can be confident all day, but if every person I come into contact with says I'm a loser, how confident am I really? Confidence comes in waves, due to our emotional state changing. Why do you think people get depressed? Why do you think people get happy? I've never heard of a depressed person being overly confident.
I can agree some that it is a self concept, but I'm still going to need that ego boost from other people. I'm relatively a confident person, but if things start to not work out as I wanted them too, I can't help but see my confidence take a chip or two. It's just how I'm wired though.
We're all wired a bit differently, and that's what makes us unique but this is a dynamic concept that anyone is capable of changing. True self confidence is based on how you see yourself and is completely detached from that of what others think of you. That happens when its based on proper and internal means. Too many folks try to build their self confidence on their careers or material things, even though its not the proper foundation. Your career may be over tomorrow and the things you acquired may be lost in a day. What then? If you are truly self confident, it doesn't much matter. A sign that one is headed in the right direction, is when you can react to compliments and criticism in the very same way, or more accurately, barely at all.
Actually, kind of weird for me to be the one to bring the thread back on topic, but:
I think one way women sell themselves short is by rejecting men too fast. I have read a lot of different female posters who say that if they get a sense that a guy is just after sex, or doesn't like her for her, then she'll reject him.
That is not the case the majority of the time with men. When you reject a guy, you reject him forever for all intents and purposes.
If you have tons of great options filtering through, then no problems for you.
But I think otherwise, you should not let something 'silly' like that eliminate a guy who has potential.
As usual, like some of us, I write this hoping that some woman will read this and not reject me for asking her out too fast. Because that is what I am going to do regardless.
Actually, kind of weird for me to be the one to bring the thread back on topic, but:
I think one way women sell themselves short is by rejecting men too fast. I have read a lot of different female posters who say that if they get a sense that a guy is just after sex, or doesn't like her for her, then she'll reject him.
That is not the case the majority of the time with men. When you reject a guy, you reject him forever for all intents and purposes.
If you have tons of great options filtering through, then no problems for you.
But I think otherwise, you should not let something 'silly' like that eliminate a guy who has potential.
As usual, like some of us, I write this hoping that some woman will read this and not reject me for asking her out too fast. Because that is what I am going to do regardless.
And there are lots of guys that reject women after one or two dates, as well. This really isn't a gender thing. The OP is just upset and turning it into something that it's not.
Actually, kind of weird for me to be the one to bring the thread back on topic, but:
I think one way women sell themselves short is by rejecting men too fast. I have read a lot of different female posters who say that if they get a sense that a guy is just after sex, or doesn't like her for her, then she'll reject him.
That is not the case the majority of the time with men. When you reject a guy, you reject him forever for all intents and purposes.
If you have tons of great options filtering through, then no problems for you.
But I think otherwise, you should not let something 'silly' like that eliminate a guy who has potential.
As usual, like some of us, I write this hoping that some woman will read this and not reject me for asking her out too fast. Because that is what I am going to do regardless.
You make it sound like women reject men, or men women, as some kind of sport. To go out and to spend time with somebody you have to at least like the person. If there is no such chemistry why bother with that? If you see something that turns you off you just walk away, that's what every normal person does. Dating is not a chore or duty, it supposed to be fun.
You make it sound like women reject men, or men women, as some kind of sport. To go out and to spend time with somebody you have to at least like the person. If there is no such chemistry why bother with that? If you see something that turns you off you just walk away, that's what every normal person does. Dating is not a chore or duty, it supposed to be fun.
I agree.
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