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Guess the guy gets points for not lying for once. Still it hurts to hear.
I asked him if he wanted to go back to her and he says 'No, she has too many issues'
That touched a nerve with me and I let him know. I told him that his answer should of been "No, cause I want to be with you" He blows up at me so I kicked him out my apartment.
My sister (of all people) tells me I'm immature and should apologize.
He texted me and specified that he missed the family life he had with his ex, not just her. And that he loves me. I feel like such an idiot.
I love him so I would like to work things out. However I can't help but feel this is a sign and I should just cut my losses.
He's been with her for 5 years and separated for 2. He's been with me for a year.
You know what? I'd feel the same way you do. So if she didn't have "too many issues" he would have stayed with her, right? I don't think you should apologize. If anything, I think HE should be apologizing to you for stringing you along for the past year.
If he's been separated from her for 2 years and he still misses all those things then I doubt he'll ever get over it because it sounds like he feels he can't have those same things with you. I think he said those things to cover up. What he said to "specify" doesn't sound any better. Is there no family life with you?
I don't know why he split with his ex, but sometimes you can't change the way you feel. He was honest with you..would you rather he lied?..It's ok to miss someone..that doesn't mean he must love you less..It's really not nice to expect someone to answer a question with what you want or expect them to. That's why people lie..You were wrong to kick him out because of that..Maybe instead of feeling "hurt", you could have listened to his reasons why and understood...this little confession of his is just a tiny miniscule bump on your lifes path...don't make it something it's not...be happy for what you have...if he loves you, cherish it. Don't set yourself up as comparison for what he had in his past....He's with YOU isn't he?..he comes home to YOU doesn't he?
Guess the guy gets points for not lying for once. Still it hurts to hear.
I asked him if he wanted to go back to her and he says 'No, she has too many issues'
That touched a nerve with me and I let him know. I told him that his answer should of been "No, cause I want to be with you" He blows up at me so I kicked him out my apartment.
My sister (of all people) tells me I'm immature and should apologize.
He texted me and specified that he missed the family life he had with his ex, not just her. And that he loves me. I feel like such an idiot.
I love him so I would like to work things out. However I can't help but feel this is a sign and I should just cut my losses.
He's been with her for 5 years and separated for 2. He's been with me for a year.
Sometimes we say things a certain way, and then the exact wording is overanalyzed.
You want him to say: "No, Because I want to be with you"
Instead he said, "No, she has too many issues"
He still said "No....."
I think it is important to remember that what we want to hear vs what happens IRL isn't always the same.
IMO, I dont know if this is a dealbreaker.
If the rest of the relationship is great, then you may want to think about the significance (or insignificance) of this argument.
If the relationship is anything but great, then end it. Something like this shouldn't be such a big deal. There are sooooo many bigger things to argue about, and if this sets you off, than most likely this relationship isnt meant to be.
You know what? I'd feel the same way you do. So if she didn't have "too many issues" he would have stayed with her, right? I don't think you should apologize. If anything, I think HE should be apologizing to you for stringing you along for the past year.
If he's been separated from her for 2 years and he still misses all those things then I doubt he'll ever get over it because it sounds like he feels he can't have those same things with you. I think he said those things to cover up. What he said to "specify" doesn't sound any better. Is there no family life with you?
I would move on.
I told him I wanted to wait for a family because I wasn't ready. And I just started my schooling to become a radiologist.
I appreciate the different opinions. It helps a little.
I guess I shouldn't have got so angry but like some say, it sounds like he wants to end it and was throwing a hint.
I really need to talk to him, but at the moment he's not taking my calls...
@ AverageGuy Thank you. We have little petty arguments at times. But our relationship has been great. We have been living together for six months. So to be honest I'm kind of blindsided about his latest confession.
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