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Old 10-26-2013, 06:19 PM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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We all know women have standards (especially high and unrealistic one) when it comes to dating men and they are called shallow or selfish. But, when men decide to have standards, they are considered shallow, mean, and selfish even though they are not high.
1) This isn't true in my experience.

2) This isn't even a question.

3) I have no idea how this thread made it to 16 pages, and I'm not going to read it to find out.
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Old 10-26-2013, 08:07 PM
 
Location: mainland but born oahu
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I think most people are decent people. Maybe a bit selfish, but overall decent.

That said, I would. In that if there was a girl who was really nice and sweet and good gal, and I knew she really liked me, I'd date her, even if I wasn't too attracted to her.

Especially if I were younger. If I said I wouldn't date a super hot b@tch when I was younger, I'd be lying, so how is the first girl any more of a compromise. Not that either situation is any type of reality.

You have to understand other people have options up the ying yang. However many options you have affects what standards you have.
Ive date both skinny model type wahine to bbw or not attractive by society standards girls. My longest ltrs have been with bbw or not attractive by society standards wahine.
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Old 10-26-2013, 08:36 PM
 
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Ive date both skinny model type wahine to bbw or not attractive by society standards girls. My longest ltrs have been with bbw or not attractive by society standards wahine.
Yea, you were the guy who liked Margaret Cho. Good for you.

I don't think most people are so flexible in their type though, especially women.
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Old 10-27-2013, 05:47 AM
 
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Of all the single men I've known/know throughout my life the vast majority of them didn't/don't have these high standards I hear people talk about here. Now a tiny percentage did but most of them were guys who could afford to. These were guys who other women were lining up to date, they just didnt want to be tied down to any of them. But at the same time they were actively sleeping with women on the side rather easily.

The other guys generally speaking didn't, Like when they're single they really single. These guys just want a woman in their lives
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Old 10-27-2013, 12:29 PM
 
Location: PHL-Terminal C, Gate 11
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1) This isn't true in my experience.

2) This isn't even a question.

3) I have no idea how this thread made it to 16 pages, and I'm not going to read it to find out.
So true nearnorth!
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Old 10-27-2013, 01:05 PM
 
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We all know women have standards (especially high and unrealistic one) when it comes to dating men and they are called shallow or selfish. But, when men decide to have standards, they are considered shallow, mean, and selfish even though they are not high.
I don't know what you've been smoking but all my male friends have high standards and I say good for them.

The trick is this. No one person can satisfy all your needs all the time so you need to decide what standards are in stone and what are negotiable or over looked. Remember the higher the standards the smaller the dating pool.

Take a quick look at this short clip from a Tyler Perry Movie, "Why Did I Get Married." Where there is an explanation of the 80/20 rule.


80/20 Rule - YouTube
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Old 10-27-2013, 01:23 PM
 
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I don't know what you've been smoking but all my male friends have high standards and I say good for them.

The trick is this. No one person can satisfy all your needs all the time so you need to decide what standards are in stone and what are negotiable or over looked. Remember the higher the standards the smaller the dating pool.

Take a quick look at this short clip from a Tyler Perry Movie, "Why Did I Get Married." Where there is an explanation of the 80/20 rule.


80/20 Rule - YouTube

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Old 10-27-2013, 09:28 PM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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The only 80/20 rule I would hypothesize is that 80% of men take responsibility for their own dating/sex lives while 20% whine and make excuses endlessly on the internet.
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Old 10-28-2013, 10:30 PM
 
Location: Bronx
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The only 80/20 rule I would hypothesize is that 80% of men take responsibility for their own dating/sex lives while 20% whine and make excuses endlessly on the internet.

It could be the reverse now a days!
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Old 10-28-2013, 11:25 PM
 
Location: mainland but born oahu
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For me i don't think its and issue of having standards or high standards, i always do my best. I just find it offensive and depressing that my value as a human being and my worthiness for love is based on external things.

No guys im not ugly or fat, im just a middle aged graying, longhair native american guy. Who is a veteran and owns his own business. When i was younger no problems with ladies, could have a date for every night and i had alot of sex. Just been in a rut for the last two years.
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