Guys, ever feel less attraction after she's too sexually aggressive? (women, attracted)
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I've been wanting to come up with an original topical that isn't related to looks.... Have you ever felt less attracted to a woman - inside or outside a relationship - because of how sexually aggressive she was toward you?
yes, i've had an interesting experience with this when i was younger.
in my early 20s i had this fantasy about a chick coming up to me at a bar/club and just being straight up and saying "i wanna f*ck you, lets go back to your place now..." well guess what? it later happened twice and both times it was a royal turn off, couldnt even get an erection about it. and for a while there i thought it was about the girl ruining "the chase" for me that caused the turn off.
but now that i have much more experience (and maybe it is about confidence?), i think it is all about the looks. the hotter she is the more i'm inclined to take her up on the offer. like a few days ago i had this face cute 20something tell me she wanted to come over to my place and "take it to the next level", and i know she was talking about our physical attraction. i said maybe this weekend, and haven't heard from her since but im pretty sure it's not going to happen because i am not that physically attracted to her. i'm not one of those guys that screws anything with a pulse, but some guys have no problem with that. more power to them.
As much as it pains me to say this - yes. But its not because she's actually always unattractive. Its more skepticism than repulsion. But my logic is as follows: Most women can be with a wide range of men, certainly sexually, whenever they choose. So if she's THAT pushy about being with me, that means she's either community property who will sleep with anything whenever she gets the itch and could therefore have diseases, or Im her last option because everyone else knows something about her that I dont know.
I hate saying that, because it sets the stage for hypocrisy when I criticize women for not doing an equal share during courtship or playing hard to get... and I dont want to have it both ways. But unless she can reassure me that she's not some walking talking disease pit, or that she isnt trying to pull a setup/robbery, being too pushy for a woman is just a red flag for me.
Last edited by soletaire; 10-19-2013 at 04:54 PM..
As much as it pains me to say this - yes. But its not because she's actually always unattractive. Its more skepticism than repulsion. But my logic is as follows: Most women can be with a wide range of men, certainly sexually, whenever they choose. So if she's THAT pushy about being with me, that means she's either community property who will sleep with anything whenever she gets the itch and could therefore have diseases, or Im her last option because everyone else knows something about her that I dont know.
I hate saying that, because it sets the stage for hypocrisy when I criticize women for not doing an equal share during courtship or playing hard to get... and I dont want to have it both ways. But unless she can reassure me that she's not some walking talking disease pit, or that she isnt trying to pull a setup/robbery, being too pushy for a woman is just a red flag for me.
You have too many assumptions going on. I have been sexually aggressive before when I was in my early 20's - If there was a guy I wanted, I made it clear.
But, what you don't see is how I will get 6-12 month at a time without any sex, and I am extremely picky about my partner of choice and have remained disease free with a clean bill of health. So, if I zero in on a guy, he'll be in for a long overdue ride.
I've been wanting to come up with an original topical that isn't related to looks.... Have you ever felt less attracted to a woman - inside or outside a relationship - because of how sexually aggressive she was toward you?
Nope. Sexually aggressive women are a massive turn on for me.
You have too many assumptions going on. I have been sexually aggressive before when I was in my early 20's - If there was a guy I wanted, I made it clear.
But, what you don't see is how I will get 6-12 month at a time without any sex, and I am extremely picky about my partner of choice and have remained disease free with a clean bill of health. So, if I zero in on a guy, he'll be in for a long overdue ride.
Never said my logic was correct...in fact, I feel that Ive missed out on several perfectly normal opportunities due to my hangup...but the fact still stands, that Im GOING to proceed with caution, if I proceed at all. For me, anything that seems too good to be true, usually is. Thats just me, for better or for worse.
YES. Many women don't realize that being overly sexual is a turnoff. So many willing to pull out all of the sexual tricks thinking that is what will keep the guy. Reality is as soon as orgasm occurs...his mind is often on HOW QUICKLY HE CAN GET YOU OUT OF HIS HOUSE.
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