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Old 11-20-2007, 03:25 PM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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If you knew my ex's...you would understand when I say NO! Not even a consideration.
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Old 11-20-2007, 03:44 PM
 
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If you knew my ex's...you would understand when I say NO! Not even a consideration.
Oh I am sorry Rance.
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Old 11-20-2007, 05:44 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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Sleeping with an ex that you once had a serious, loving relationship with, but break up and after a while time goes by and then you start sleeping together, casually, dating in a way.

Is this a smart idea.

there must be boundaries, good communication? but how if there isnt any?

this is what i am facing right now, this kinda unattachted, unemotional, but also romantically, deep and passionate sex?

I wouldn't do it. In the words of Miss Cleo ... "Don't do it. It would be a bad move!" He is your EX for a reason, so don't forget it!!!
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Old 11-20-2007, 05:47 PM
 
Location: Sherman Oaks, CA
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I have done this (a long time ago in my misspent youth!), and all it did was mess with my mind. Like everyone has said, that person is an ex for a reason. Not to mention that you risk disease in such a situation.

How can the OP call it "unattached, unemotional, but also romantically, deep and passionate sex"? Unattached and unemotional are NOT romantic, deep and passionate. It sounds to me like this is already a bad idea.
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Old 11-20-2007, 05:50 PM
 
Location: southern california
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53% of women sleep with the ex's. 36 % of guys do. of course looks like the guys are in denial doesn't it.
boundaries are important. divorce is a gut wrenching draumatizing experience and people are guna make mistakes in pulling it off.
forgive.
try to move on.
its ok to make mistakes, just not the same ones.
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Old 11-20-2007, 06:44 PM
 
Location: NE Florida
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Recycling is best saved for can,bottles and plastics.
I went back out with an ex once and all it took was one date to realize why he was an ex
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Old 11-20-2007, 07:16 PM
 
Location: in drifts of snow wherever you go
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Recycling is best saved for can,bottles and plastics.
I went back out with an ex once and all it took was one date to realize why he was an ex
lol! too funny, karla!
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Old 11-20-2007, 07:25 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, TN
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Recycling is best saved for can,bottles and plastics.
I went back out with an ex once and all it took was one date to realize why he was an ex
LOL, too funny Karla.

I'm not sure how I feel about this, I keep going back and forth with my response too. Very unhealthy thing to do, your taking a chance at getting pregnant ~ but then again, I think if you need sex, better to sleep with someone you at least love/loved then to sleep around with strangers that you don't have feelings for ...... that doesn't sound very good either but that's what is going through my mind.
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Old 11-21-2007, 03:51 PM
 
Location: Capitan, NM
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I wouldn't sleep with the ex. Yuck. Like you all are saying, he's an ex for a reason. Find someone else to have a relationship with.

I don't know if this is still the divorce law in Virginia but the husband and wife have to be separated for 1 year before filing for divorce. If they get back together in the year for sex, the year starts over.
I worked with this woman who wanted her husband back so when the year was almost up, she'd go have sex with him, run to his attourney and the cycle would start all over again. This went on for several years. She finally realized he didn't want her back and they ended up divorced. The husband seemed pretty dumb too for putting up with this.
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Old 11-21-2007, 05:22 PM
 
Location: Beautiful Kentucky
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NEVER, NEVER, NEVER a good idea!
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