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Old 10-28-2013, 05:20 PM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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Do be aware that if she says no, then she will need you to find a new stylist.
I don't think that this is necessarily the case. As long as the rejection doesn't make things too awkward, and as long as he realizes no means no (i.e. doesn't keep trying to ask her out), there's no reason he can't keep going to her for his hair. If she's as beautiful as he says, she probably can't afford to lose every paying customer she turns down for dates.

I dated my hair stylist years ago. It didn't work out long-term, but she still does my hair. Another ex is still my optician. They're both really good at what they do, so there's no reason for me to go through the work of finding new people for those things just because I don't get to have sex with them anymore.
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Old 10-28-2013, 05:28 PM
 
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I dated my hair stylist years ago. It didn't work out long-term, but she still does my hair. Another ex is still my optician. They're both really good at what they do, so there's no reason for me to go through the work of finding new people for those things just because I don't get to have sex with them anymore.
excellent, somebody who has experience


How did you do it and what's the best way of doing it for me? (asking her out)
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Old 10-28-2013, 05:31 PM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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How did you do it and what's the best way of doing it for me? (asking her out)
I honestly don't remember. It was years ago, and I've dated way too many people since then. I asked her out. We probably went for drinks after she got off work or something.

I'm still not sure what you're asking, really. Are you asking how to ask out a woman in general? Or do you think there's something different about asking out this one than asking out anyone else? You know this woman, and you know what tends to work or not work for you. I know neither of these things.
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Old 10-28-2013, 05:31 PM
 
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I have confidence, I'm just trying to figure out the best option of doing this

I can go to her work place, ask to see her and ask her out
I can go to her work place to buy something (I actually do need to get some shampoo) and then ask her out after I buy it
I can wait till my next haircut and then ask her out after she cuts my hair





You don't think it's a good idea to build rapport before asking her out? I feel like just going in cold and asking her out right away is the equivalent of going into a gym and trying to do the most weight possible without any kind of a warm up

If you actually were confidant you would not be asking a bunch of strangers what the best option is and how to ask her out.
If you cannot figure this one out all by yourself you are not ready for much beyond a hair cut.
For crying out loud, how hard is it to say.............Would you like to go to dinner?

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Old 10-28-2013, 05:35 PM
 
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For crying out loud, how hard is it to say.............Would you like to go to dinner?

Which I understand, so should I do that when I see her next time in 3 weeks to get my hair cut or go in and do it this week?
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Old 10-28-2013, 05:38 PM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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Which I understand, so should I do that when I see her next time in 3 weeks to get my hair cut or go in and do it this week?
I probably wouldn't just stop by, unless you have REALLY good rapport. That potentially makes things awkward for both of you in front of her other customers. If you don't have a phone number or email address for her, I'd probably wait until the next appointment.
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Old 10-28-2013, 05:39 PM
 
Location: USA
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I had a thing for my hair stylist a few years ago. I always thought it was unprofesional to ask her out so I didn't. She finally ended up getting married to a guy that could have been my double
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Old 10-28-2013, 05:42 PM
 
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She finally ended up getting married to a guy that could have been my double

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Old 10-28-2013, 06:29 PM
 
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I probably wouldn't just stop by, unless you have REALLY good rapport. That potentially makes things awkward for both of you in front of her other customers. If you don't have a phone number or email address for her, I'd probably wait until the next appointment.


That sounds reasonable, I just hate waiting
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Old 10-28-2013, 07:16 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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Look at all the people with the defeatist attitude here hahah

Asking out a girl is simple and doesn't require anything. Talk to her, invite her to do something with you and get her number.. simple as that.

Since you're a customer, and would be in front of her coworkers.. try to do it so it's not in front of everyone. Maybe give her your number. Honestly, it doesn't matter what you do as long as you do it and aren't ridiculous.
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