Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
So? You weren't exclusive and you knew she was seeing other people. Since she was seeing other people (even just first dates) she obviously wasn't that into you.
Seems pretty clear to me.
you're free to think lying is ok. she was very into me. we weren't a good match for long term. i broke it off with her, because it wasn't worth my time dating someone who tried to fool me.
I would consider it a lie and dump her if she hadn't dumped me first. You and she have incompatible ethics. Hers would work ok for some people, but not for you. Or me.
that's what i did. same day as she spoke of the plans for the friend to visit again, i told her we are done.
you're free to think lying is ok. she was very into me. we weren't a good match for long term. i broke it off with her, because it wasn't worth my time dating someone who tried to fool me.
How is it lying? You weren't exclusive and since she was dating other people she OBVIOUSLY wasn't that into you, or else she would be with just you and not be dating other randoms. When I started seeing my guy I deleted my account and ceased contact with the other 2 guys I was chatting with because I was only interested in him.
You weren't together so she had no obligation to you. Now, if you had said you were exclusively dating that would be different.
I agree, but that wasn't my question. It was IF you aren't exclusive, should someone also be free to deceive the other person about the rest of their dating life.
Its not deceiving, its just dating. Unless its been agree upon to date exclusively, theres nothing wrong, and probably a lot right, with dating a lot of people. Its the only way you find someone you want to date exclusively.
So? You weren't exclusive and you knew she was seeing other people. Since she was seeing other people (even just first dates) she obviously wasn't that into you.
Seems pretty clear to me.
But that doesn't change that the right thing to have done was tell the poor guy b4 hand that she may get serious with someone else and give op a chance to make a choice if that is what he wantted in his life. Obviously after the fact he found out and ended it. If he had wantted that in his life or was ok with it, we wouldn't be having this discussion.
How is it lying? You weren't exclusive and since she was dating other people she OBVIOUSLY wasn't that into you, or else she would be with just you and not be dating other randoms. When I started seeing my guy I deleted my account and ceased contact with the other 2 guys I was chatting with because I was only interested in him.
You weren't together so she had no obligation to you. Now, if you had said you were exclusively dating that would be different.
The lie was that the guy was a friend visiting. The guy was NOT a friend. The guy was a romantic interest. It was a false statement meant to deceive. That is by definition a lie. Don't ask me how it was a lie again, because I can't help you anymore than this. Get a dictionary if you need one.
The lie was that the guy was a friend visiting. The guy was NOT a friend. The guy was a romantic interest. It was a false statement meant to deceive. That is by definition a lie. Don't ask me how it was a lie again, because I can't help you anymore than this. Get a dictionary if you need one.
Sounds like you thought the 'relationship' was more serious than it was.
I don't see how it was a lie. A romantic interest can still be a friend, especially if it hadn't progressed to romance yet. Like I said, she wasn't that into you if she was still seeing other people. That's the important part.
Sounds like you're bitter that she didn't pick you.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
