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Old 10-30-2013, 03:21 PM
 
Location: Northeast Texas
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Must have been attractive, because if not, you'd have been scared away.
Probably true, but if you look like one of those people who workout all the time then no.
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Old 10-30-2013, 03:45 PM
 
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Ummm. practically everywhere you go? An elevator, park, bar, restaurant, café, work, car dealership...should I go on? There are only 3.5 billion of them on this earth. They must all hide from you.
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Old 10-30-2013, 04:23 PM
 
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I never recommend bars if you're looking for a relationship. That's just me.
Bad advice.
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Old 10-30-2013, 04:47 PM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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I never recommend bars if you're looking for a relationship. That's just me.
Eh...If you're talking about going to a bar specifically for the purpose of finding your soul mate, I agree. If you're just going to a bar to hang out and have fun, though, you just as likely/unlikely to meet a compatible person there as anywhere else, though. Plus, a couple of drinks can be a good conversational lubricant.
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Old 10-30-2013, 06:07 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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Where to Meet Women | The Art of Manliness
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Old 10-30-2013, 06:58 PM
 
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I know this a common question, but I've never heard a good answer.

In post-college life, you spend the majority of your waking hours at work. It's assumed you won't meet a mate there because (1) work relationships are a no-no and (2), as a recent college grad, your coworkers are unlikely to be near your age range, unless you're at some young, hip company like Google. So that means that more than 1/2 of your waking hours are not helping you find a mate.

Now, what about the other 1/2 of your time?

You're probably not going to meet anyone Monday-Friday after work. Most people are burned out from a 9-5 workday and just want to use their remaining energy to finish a workout at the gym and then cook themselves a meal before relaxing at their apartment. The only public places you'll be are the gym, maybe the bus and the grocery store as well. Problem is that, according to women, they don't want a random guy talking to them in public places. So I assume that Monday-Friday are times that you're not going to find a mate.

That leaves only the weekends as possibilities. Still, where the Hell do you meet women? I guess the only place where it is appropriate to talk to random women is the bars.

I see why so many people resort to online dating. No way I'm doing that, though. Online dating is basically a catalogue for women to pick out guys 6'0"+ and $100k/yr+. I would have no luck at all.
I'd say go to big events. Or find something that you are passionate or somewhat interested in and go where people of similar interests gather. It can be a church, or whatever. Otherwise, you'll just have to walk around with open eyes.
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Old 10-30-2013, 07:23 PM
 
Location: Houston, Tx
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I know this a common question, but I've never heard a good answer.

In post-college life, you spend the majority of your waking hours at work. It's assumed you won't meet a mate there because (1) work relationships are a no-no and (2), as a recent college grad, your coworkers are unlikely to be near your age range, unless you're at some young, hip company like Google. So that means that more than 1/2 of your waking hours are not helping you find a mate.

Now, what about the other 1/2 of your time?

You're probably not going to meet anyone Monday-Friday after work. Most people are burned out from a 9-5 workday and just want to use their remaining energy to finish a workout at the gym and then cook themselves a meal before relaxing at their apartment. The only public places you'll be are the gym, maybe the bus and the grocery store as well. Problem is that, according to women, they don't want a random guy talking to them in public places. So I assume that Monday-Friday are times that you're not going to find a mate.

That leaves only the weekends as possibilities. Still, where the Hell do you meet women? I guess the only place where it is appropriate to talk to random women is the bars.

I see why so many people resort to online dating. No way I'm doing that, though. Online dating is basically a catalogue for women to pick out guys 6'0"+ and $100k/yr+. I would have no luck at all.
That's what I always try to tell these young dudes who are still in school, you better take advantage of it, because you will never again be around that many single, available, willing, women in close proximity again in your life.
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Old 10-30-2013, 07:28 PM
 
Location: Houston, Tx
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I don't know where you got the bolded. SOME women may not like being approached in stores or at the bus stop, but other women go to the store HOPING someone will approach them. don't be so negative about the possibilities.

Other places you can meet women are hiking groups or sports leagues, volunteering at political or enviro orgs, jogging or walking around the local park after work, attending art fairs and concerts, etc. The catch is that when you do these activities, you have to actually TALK to women--you know, be friendly and outgoing, and chat with people. That seems to be more of an obstacle for some guys than figuring out where the women are.
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Ummm. practically everywhere you go? An elevator, park, bar, restaurant, café, work, car dealership...should I go on? There are only 3.5 billion of them on this earth. They must all hide from you.

Good advice here.
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Old 10-31-2013, 05:43 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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I see why so many people resort to online dating. No way I'm doing that, though. Online dating is basically a catalogue for women to pick out guys 6'0"+ and $100k/yr+. I would have no luck at all.
If online dating seems weird, that’s because evolutionary and biologically it is, Intimate relationships grow from real physical proximity. People are social beings that thrive from real world social interaction. But with younger generations growing up online, the sense of distance felt when communicating with others through the Internet will shrink.Maybe in the next ten years online dating will shed any remaining social stigma.

There are no much differences between online people and offline people. Online people are just offline people, they are not aliens or a different breed.

If a person is looking for somebody 6 feet tall and make six figure income. Her "requirement" will not change even if she is looking for a mate offline.
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Old 10-31-2013, 06:06 AM
 
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I know this a common question, but I've never heard a good answer.

In post-college life, you spend the majority of your waking hours at work. It's assumed you won't meet a mate there because (1) work relationships are a no-no and (2), as a recent college grad, your coworkers are unlikely to be near your age range, unless you're at some young, hip company like Google. So that means that more than 1/2 of your waking hours are not helping you find a mate.

Now, what about the other 1/2 of your time?

You're probably not going to meet anyone Monday-Friday after work. Most people are burned out from a 9-5 workday and just want to use their remaining energy to finish a workout at the gym and then cook themselves a meal before relaxing at their apartment. The only public places you'll be are the gym, maybe the bus and the grocery store as well. Problem is that, according to women, they don't want a random guy talking to them in public places. So I assume that Monday-Friday are times that you're not going to find a mate.

That leaves only the weekends as possibilities. Still, where the Hell do you meet women? I guess the only place where it is appropriate to talk to random women is the bars.

I see why so many people resort to online dating. No way I'm doing that, though. Online dating is basically a catalogue for women to pick out guys 6'0"+ and $100k/yr+. I would have no luck at all.
Perhaps the answers you hear are never "good" enough for you, because they are all different! Seriously....people meet people EVERYWHERE. Get out, live your life, and stop reading silly articles about "where women want to meet random guys". .

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So I assume that Monday-Friday are times that you're not going to find a mate. That leaves only the weekends as possibilities.
That is one of the stupidest things I have read here in this forum.

You'll meet plenty. Everywhere. Any day of the week.
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