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Old 10-31-2013, 07:31 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I love to observe people. To study and observe the nature of individuals. I am a fantastic listener and there are certain observations I have made.
Without going into too much details on why or how I feel this way, I think that happiness especially when concerned with relationship and love is not just fleeting but impossible.
People are bound to get bored or sick of the other person with time. I see this among people irregardless of their nationality or race or culture....two individuals are bound to get sick of the others company.
This is the predicament of the human condition. With people, with places, with most everything unless you are too passionate about it(say jazz or travelling which can last a lifetime).
Well, I disagree with your premise so the rest of your post is meaningless to me. My opinion is based not only on my own life but on the lives of those around me. Love is not fleeting nor is it impossible.

I truly feel bad for those people who somehow have not seen any truly happy marriages or relationships around them because they do in fact exist and they aren't 1 in a million.
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Old 10-31-2013, 07:39 AM
 
Location: Type 0.7 Kardashev
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I've never paid for sex.

I have no particular ethical issues with it - I think a woman should be able to choose to work as a prostitute (which is why I think it should be legal and, importantly, regulated).

That said, I'm no more interested in having sex with someone who is doing it for payment than I am in hanging out, going out to dinner, going fishing, or simply having a pleasant talk, with someone who is engaging in that activity with me just because I am paying them for it. Sharing those activities with someone is about a personal connection.

If I really want to have an orgasm and no one else is available, I know how to make that happen. But just like I'll pass on paying someone to be my friend, I'll pass on paying someone to have sex with me.

[This is completely aside from the fact that I am married, which precludes such a consideration in the first place]

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I am not exploiting anyone, my friend. If anything I feel like I am the knight in shining armor helping both parties(me and her). The hookers you mention are cheap, crass, roadside utensils who are addicted to drugs. I wouldn't touch them with a pole. Not because they are bad people but their outlook is bad, hence their lifestyle and outlook. Yes, they look at you as treats.
You're trying way too hard here. First, the thread. Second, the laughable idea that paying someone for a service is heroic. Something tells me you don't feel heroic when you pay a plumber for unclogging a pipe, or when you pay a mechanic for installig new brakes on your car. Why?

My guess is that you're feeling guilty, and that this thread - and your weird "I'm a knight in shining armor because I pay to get laid!" thesis - is an attempt to assuage your guilt. While I think your guilt is misplaced, your attempts to deal with it are simply ridiculous.

Just get over it. If your happiness is dependent on paying people to share personal connections with you, just do it rather than insisting everyone acknowledge the wonderfulness of your being a client in a business transaction.

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Old 10-31-2013, 07:44 AM
 
Location: california
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Why create a bunch of false investments in something that planely has no future?Would you want your own wife /daughter ,just used for sex by any one that demands it?
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Old 10-31-2013, 07:45 AM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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love and sex doesn't come free; there's always a price to pay.
Everything comes with a price, Dearie.
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Old 10-31-2013, 07:46 AM
 
Location: Somewhere on this 3rd rock from the sun
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Almost all of my friends have paid for sex at one time or another. Many of them whom had, I don't recall them telling me that they had gotten checked for std's afterwords. I personally don't look down on prostitutes (don't exactly look up either), but there are a few reasons that I could never be with one. For one, I would feel "pathetic". Again, this is just me. Plus, I get freaked out easily about diseases and I am not putting my manhood into anything that makes a living off of things being put in it. Last, but not least. I don't like the feeling I'm sure I would have feeling like I am exploiting another human being. I don't know why this person is into prostitution. They could be a drug addict. They could have no choice (modern day slave), and you don't even know how old they are. For these reasons alone I could never be with a prostitute. I love how guys think that a prostitute likes them too. What they like is money and most of them drugs. I don't think most prostitutes can even like men in many regards. Imagine being used by men all the time. It just doesn't make for a happy towards men atmosphere. Most prostitutes look at men who pay for sex as just "tricks". Since it's Halloween, trick or treat!

Op', get a women to like you for you and stop exploiting woman for your needs.
I am not exploiting anyone, my friend. If anything I feel like I am the knight in shining armor helping both parties(me and her). The hookers you mention are cheap, crass, roadside utensils who are addicted to drugs. I wouldn't touch them with a pole. Not because they are bad people but their outlook is bad, hence their lifestyle and outlook. Yes, they look at you as treats.

There's a movie called the Girlfriend experience so I am sure this idea is already out in practice.
I just want to have an outlet and be happy. Unlike my parents who are constantly throwing anything they can get a hold of at each other.
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Old 10-31-2013, 07:51 AM
 
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I don't see why you needed to wrote a whole long philosophical thing about this. It was annoying to get through but I'll read anything that contains the word "prostitute".

Regardless, who am I to judge?

OP, it's your life. If you're an adult, make your decisions and do what enriches you and makes you happy while being thoughtful about your actions. Try to hurt as few people as you can in the process.

Best of luck.
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Old 10-31-2013, 07:57 AM
 
Location: Bangkok, NYC, and LV
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You silly Yanks....man high powered men use prostitutes...its a service on command....if you have enough money you can order a sexual act from the lady of your choice just like you order breakfast at at Denny's.

Many prostitutes are drug addicted low lives and many are six figure earning entrepreneurs who work a few hours each day, provide for their kids, and are seemingly well adjusted....kinda like the lawyers I know.
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Old 10-31-2013, 08:28 AM
 
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No. I know one guy in his 60's who visits several brothels. He lost his V-card to a prostitute when he was 13 years old. I know another guy in his late 20's who invited me to go with him to his favorite prositutes.

Another guy had his birthday coming up and he wanted to offer dibs on his favorite escort and wanted to buy rounds for every guy he went to college with .

Meh, if a guy can't get most women to drop their panties with no effort- the best he oughta do is to remove himself from the sexual marketplace(the dating world) and to avoid women as much as possible.
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Old 10-31-2013, 08:50 AM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Most prostitutes look at men who pay for sex as just "tricks". Since it's Halloween, trick or treat!
LOL haha
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Old 10-31-2013, 08:55 AM
 
Location: Ro cha cha, NY
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I am not exploiting anyone, my friend. If anything I feel like I am the knight in shining armor helping both parties(me and her). The hookers you mention are cheap, crass, roadside utensils who are addicted to drugs. I wouldn't touch them with a pole. Not because they are bad people but their outlook is bad, hence their lifestyle and outlook. Yes, they look at you as treats.

There's a movie called the Girlfriend experience so I am sure this idea is already out in practice.
I just want to have an outlet and be happy. Unlike my parents who are constantly throwing anything they can get a hold of at each other.

You don't really know that you are not exploiting anyone. And personally, a street prostitute and a high paid call girl are to me the same. It's not the quality of people that make them the same. It's the shame/ high price they pay to their soul that make them same. So, I guess you would be ok, pimping out your sister? Would you be ok, if your mother was a prostitute? And if so, would you want some guy like you writing about their sexual conquests with her?

Newsflash: You are not a white knight in shining armor to you or her. You are what is called a "john". No more, no less. She doesn't love/ like you, she loves your money and perhaps you might be one of her better clients. Meaning, you might pay more and not degrade her as bad. That's the extent of what she might feel for you. Sorry, to break the news to you. And trust me, there isn't a soul on here who views you as a "knight". Only yourself.

You mentioned that their lifestyle is different. How so, in the end, they are still doing sexual favors for money. Where and what is the difference?
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