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Old 10-31-2013, 08:58 AM
 
Location: Canada
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You don't really know that you are not exploiting anyone. And personally, a street prostitute and a high paid call girl are to me the same. It's not the quality of people that make them the same. It's the shame/ high price they pay to their soul that make them same. So, I guess you would be ok, pimping out your sister? Would you be ok, if your mother was a prostitute? And if so, would you want some guy like you writing about their sexual conquests with her?

Newsflash: You are not a white in shining armor to you or her. You are what is called a "john". No more, no less. She doesn't love/ like you, she loves your money and perhaps you might be one of her better clients. Meaning, you might pay more and not degrade her as bad. That's the extent of what she might feel for you. Sorry, to break the news to you. And trust me, there isn't a soul on here who view you as a "knight". Only yourself.

You mentioned that their lifestyle is different. How so, in the end, they are still doing sexual favors for money. Where is the difference?
Took the words right out of my mouth! He has fooled himself into believing he's a white knight, because it's the only way he can justify to himself using a woman who trades sex for $$$ and thinking it's "love".
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Old 10-31-2013, 09:31 AM
 
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I love to observe people. To study and observe the nature of individuals. I am a fantastic listener and there are certain observations I have made.
Without going into too much details on why or how I feel this way, I think that happiness especially when concerned with relationship and love is not just fleeting but impossible.
People are bound to get bored or sick of the other person with time. I see this among people irregardless of their nationality or race or culture....two individuals are bound to get sick of the others company.
This is the predicament of the human condition. With people, with places, with most everything unless you are too passionate about it(say jazz or travelling which can last a lifetime).

Say a city dwelling person desires to someday live on a pristine island away from the chaos of mainstream life.
He saves each day, looks at a picture of that island to inspire him. Finally he lands on his island.
Day 1: He is full of pure bliss. The sound of the ocean, the feel of sand between his toes, the air.
Week 1: He is happy to finally live in his paradise. He tells it to anyone he meets. He explores. He wanders.
Month 1: This is when the symptoms of redundancy kick in. He sits on the beach and wonders...okay...now what? what next.

Same with love and relationship. It is fleeting. The infatuation in the beginning is intoxicating but eventually it starts to wear off. A man and a woman will have many differences but that isn't even the point. The fact that you are with the person day in and day out wears you down. Add to it external issues and no wonder there is this thing called divorce.

What I am trying to say is that I see my fellow friends married, some even with babies(the ultimate burden that binds one) but I hear the problems and its usually the same everywhere. The only reason, I feel, any couple stays together is because of financial reasons or children, or other obligations.

Do you agree with me? I am asking you regarding the collective thought process of us human beings. No one thinks on this level, we are too preoccupied with our problems. But if you stand back and wonder, maybe the fact that we are not created to be satisfied is one reason people are so unhappy.

So, I went to Thailand and one sunny day lying on the beach thought of an idea: perhaps to help my fellow man. The transmutation of sexual energy!

THE TRANSMUTATION OF SEXUAL ENERGY, my fellow men. and women.
Most of us try to find peace in sex, in love when it is not possible in the long run.
So why not invest in it like a business transaction?
I asked a beautiful Thai girl to be my lover, my amour for a few weeks of a certain month each year. There was fun, there was an UNDERSTANDING. Sex was hardly the agenda. She came from a poor background and the bare basic affordabilities made her content(no expensive gifts and stuff). In return I was getting a good supply of love, sex and understanding. We talked about astronomy, my business plans, her grandparents. And that was it!

Why can't we expand this idea on a larger scale? We are brainwashed and led to believe that this is right or that is wrong. Is it wrong in wanting to be rich? Hell, no. If I want to work hard and afford a life to distract me from nihilistic thoughts which lead to negative thoughts, why shouldn't I?
If I want to sign a contract of love in return of understanding why shouldn't I?
We sat on the beach and I came up with this business idea I want to implement and my outlook on life just changed. I wasn't stuck.

You can buy love, my fellow friends. If there is mutual understanding then there are few greater contentment. Someday when I am 38 and wanting to sit in front of my TV and get together with friends and family I will marry. But till then why can't I have diversity and joy?
maybe
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Old 10-31-2013, 09:42 AM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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What I am trying to say is that I see my fellow friends married, some even
with babies(the ultimate burden that binds one) but I hear the problems and its
usually the same everywhere. The only reason, I feel, any couple stays together
is because of financial reasons or children, or other obligations.

Do
you agree with me? I am asking you regarding the collective thought process of
us human beings. No one thinks on this level, we are too preoccupied with our
problems. But if you stand back and wonder, maybe the fact that we are not
created to be satisfied is one reason people are so unhappy.
I do not believe that we are created to not be satisfied. There are plenty people that are satisfied with their lives. Sure we daydream and fanaticize. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, but at the end of the day the majority of people just want to live their normal lives.

I don't believe the only reason couples stay together is kids, finances and obligation but those are certainly reasons couples will stay together. I believe those reason were even more important in the past and influences the divorce rate. It once was that people actually needed each other for financial stability and to raise children, not so much today.

For those men, and women for that matter, who do not subscribe to that life then by all means pay for companions. Prostitutes serve a purpose. They have been around since the beginnings and I'm sure will be around till the end.
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Old 10-31-2013, 09:59 AM
 
Location: Bangkok, NYC, and LV
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You don't really know that you are not exploiting anyone. And personally, a street prostitute and a high paid call girl are to me the same. It's not the quality of people that make them the same. It's the shame/ high price they pay to their soul that make them same. So, I guess you would be ok, pimping out your sister? Would you be ok, if your mother was a prostitute? And if so, would you want some guy like you writing about their sexual conquests with her?

Newsflash: You are not a white knight in shining armor to you or her. You are what is called a "john". No more, no less. She doesn't love/ like you, she loves your money and perhaps you might be one of her better clients. Meaning, you might pay more and not degrade her as bad. That's the extent of what she might feel for you. Sorry, to break the news to you. And trust me, there isn't a soul on here who views you as a "knight". Only yourself.

You mentioned that their lifestyle is different. How so, in the end, they are still doing sexual favors for money. Where and what is the difference?
and, blah blah, blah...of course it's a business transaction..and often a pleasant one,,i have no more of less love for a hooker than I do my gardener...they both come and fix me and up, I pay, and they go....we often chat about football and the kids in school too

I would not wnat my sister to be a personal injury attorney or my mom an air traffic controller...but whats that have to do with the price tea in china
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Old 10-31-2013, 10:01 AM
 
Location: Bangkok, NYC, and LV
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Took the words right out of my mouth! He has fooled himself into believing he's a white knight, because it's the only way he can justify to himself using a woman who trades sex for $$$ and thinking it's "love".
then he is a fool...its bizz, no more no less...although I guess by paying her you are providing her with income and putting food on her table and her kids clothed.
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Old 10-31-2013, 10:16 AM
 
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No. I know one guy in his 60's who visits several brothels. He lost his V-card to a prostitute when he was 13 years old. I know another guy in his late 20's who invited me to go with him to his favorite prositutes.

Another guy had his birthday coming up and he wanted to offer dibs on his favorite escort and wanted to buy rounds for every guy he went to college with
Can you introduce me to these guys? Especially the one who wanted to buy rounds for his friends.
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Old 10-31-2013, 10:19 AM
 
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You don't really know that you are not exploiting anyone. And personally, a street prostitute and a high paid call girl are to me the same. It's not the quality of people that make them the same. It's the shame/ high price they pay to their soul that make them same. So, I guess you would be ok, pimping out your sister? Would you be ok, if your mother was a prostitute? And if so, would you want some guy like you writing about their sexual conquests with her?

Newsflash: You are not a white knight in shining armor to you or her. You are what is called a "john". No more, no less. She doesn't love/ like you, she loves your money and perhaps you might be one of her better clients. Meaning, you might pay more and not degrade her as bad. That's the extent of what she might feel for you. Sorry, to break the news to you. And trust me, there isn't a soul on here who views you as a "knight". Only yourself.

You mentioned that their lifestyle is different. How so, in the end, they are still doing sexual favors for money. Where and what is the difference?
OP, don't listen to any of that BS. They are all deeply in love with you.
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Old 10-31-2013, 10:23 AM
 
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Without prostitution the world would have a lot more angrier men.
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Old 10-31-2013, 10:27 AM
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Paying for it is an honest transaction for those who need to do it. Both sides know what they are getting.

Of course those men who play and ultimately trick women into bed, and then are off after getting it, look down upon those who pay. Why pay for it if you can simply decieve a woman to get it?

And the confusion between (i) love and (ii) sex still lingers even in this day and age....
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Old 10-31-2013, 10:27 AM
 
Location: Greenbelt, MD
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Without prostitution the world would have a lot more angrier men.
"A lot more," seriously?

I'm willing to bet the percentage of men who patronize prostitutes is in the very low single digits.
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