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Old 11-20-2013, 12:50 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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I would be skeptical that all his money is going into electronic cigarette paraphernalia, just as I would be skeptical that his online life in the e-cig smoking online community is so fascinating that real life just doesn't stack up to all the wonders he can behold there.

I think you are dealing with a guy with addictions ( to smokes, to the internet, to forums, to porn, to virtual relationships with people who have no real expectations, to getting absorbed in non-reality because he's dissatisfied with real life, who knows?) and he's using crutches to avoid interacting with you, at best, or hiding more shady behavior, at worst.

And, honestly, if he really IS that absorbed in some weird-ass online nicotine vaporizing subculture that it's seriously consuming his time and energies to the exclusion of his marriage, that's more than a little weird, to tell you the truth. But the most likely scenario is that he's bored with his life and is using this to avoid addressing it - just checking out. Address it head-on and see what's really up. But in my experience, once guys get to the point where they're immersing themselves into weird niche interests to avoid spending time on their relationships, it's time to pull the plug. Usually past time. If he wanted to fix whatever's not engaging to him, he'd have approached you about doing so by now.
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Old 11-20-2013, 12:50 PM
 
Location: Long Island, NY
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One minute he's blwoing his check on e-cigs, but later she says he pays all of his bills.


And the OP is nowhere to be found, too
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Old 11-20-2013, 01:59 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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yeah, instead having us wondering and speculating about ecigarettes, she could just give us some more input.

Hello?? OP??
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Old 11-20-2013, 06:40 PM
 
Location: Due North of Potemkin City Limits
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So I've been married for about 7 years and my husband and I seem like we are on different paths entirely. He works so much and when he's home he is online talking to God knows who buying e cig stuff. He spends almost his whole check on e cig stuff every pay period and will not save money as a "family" with me.we both make pretty good money but are still living in an efficiency. He keeps telling me he will start saving money after he gets so in so, or pays something off so we can " save for our future" I'm in school and really trying to make a good life for myself but feel like he is not on the same plane as I am. He works 6 days a week 12 hours a day so I never see him, when I do he's on a electronic cig forum. He promises and promises that he will find another job soon so he can see me more, I honestly don't see that happening. I feel ignored, lonely, not worth it, less than and broken. I have talked to him about this and only get more broken promises, I'm looking for a way to keep my self entertained that is the reason for starting this forum. I know there are others going through this same sort of thing and I need support,I don't know what to do and have honestly thought about leaving him.
This is one of the most insane posts I've ever read here. He makes "good money" but spends most of it on e-cigs???? WTF? As I'm typing this, I'm puffing on my e-cig. It's a very high-end model. I've got maybe $150 in hardware (batteries, atomizers, etc) that will last me a year. I spend MAYBE $40 / month on e-juice, and I VAPE CONSTANTLY. I had a 2.5 pack/day cigarette habit before I switched to ecigs.
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Old 11-20-2013, 07:07 PM
 
Location: The Valley of the Sun
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I'm looking for a way to keep my self entertained that is the reason for starting this forum.
Take up photography, start working out, train for a marathon, earn your black belt or whatever suits your fancy. I understand that you are feeling lonely and neglected but husbands are not meant to be a source of entertainment.

Also, in case you havent noticed, the economy is pretty sucky right now so it may take him a while to find a different job. Hang in there.
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Old 11-21-2013, 06:59 AM
 
Location: Petticoat Junction
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E cigs are pointless. Youre replacing one source of nicotine with another. If you want to stop smoking, you need to get the nicotine out of your system. Takes roughly 72 hours.
Maybe he doesn't want to stop smoking, he just wants to do it in a more socially acceptable way. I know several people who vape because, well, they like vaping. They have no intention of quitting.
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Old 11-22-2013, 06:51 PM
 
Location: Due North of Potemkin City Limits
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E cigs are pointless. Youre replacing one source of nicotine with another. If you want to stop smoking, you need to get the nicotine out of your system. Takes roughly 72 hours.
Nicotine alone is about as harmful to the human body as caffeine. Now that I vape, I no longer have a smoker's cough, and my lung capacity has improved greatly. Typically, vaping delivers far less nicotine to the system than smoking does. I noticed some slight (yet manageable) withdrawal symptoms when I switched over to e-cigs. I've never once relapsed though. E-cigs also make tapering much off of nicotine much easier, as you just step down in concentrations.

E-liquid typically contains nicotine, PG (propolene glycol), and a flavor additive. Aside from the nicotine, it's essentially a food product and is relatively harmless. In fact, it's been widely known in the scientific community that PG mist kills the influenza virus. Vaping literally makes you immune to getting the flu! If you don't believe me, look it up.
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