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Old 11-03-2013, 05:34 AM
 
Location: a primitive state
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Just let the texting thing go. If you start acting territorial over something as lame as who texted whom and how often, you'll be as crazy as the ex.

Now, act like an adult. Apologize to your boyfriend for overreacting. That will relieve some of the tension. The minute you start keeping score, is the minute your relationship stares the downhill slide. Don't wait for an apology from him. Just get over it.

You have two choices about how to behave towards the ex:

You can ignore her for the time being.
You can go to your supervisor and ask for advice.

Regardless, you should keep a written record of what happens. Don't talk to to ex. That's just asking for trouble.
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Old 11-03-2013, 05:42 AM
 
Location: In nature
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I'm too old for this cr*p, so I'll say this:

You're young
life is short

You've only been dating 6 months but long enough to see some true traits. There will always be stress in your lives. You're learning how he deals with stress. This who he is and that's not going to change. You either accept it for who he is or you move on. The fact that he defended his ex speaks to me that he doesn't believe you and thats a problem because you're constantly going to have to defend yourself on things like this. That doesn't change or go away either IME.
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Old 11-03-2013, 11:23 AM
 
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[QUOTEslilyflower3191981;32070697]Bold makes me believe that he is still a keeper. Give him some time.[/quote]

Yes hes the best guy I been with. He takes care of me if I need anything. He makes me laugh and tells me he loves me he loves everyday sending hearts and tells me im beautiful and how hes lucky.
I just feel he was outta line and something in my head went off like redflag since he wasnt defending me. I have no problem dropping people who are full of ****. Im just gonna talk to him and if he doesn't listen and apologize then im out. Thanks hun
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Old 11-03-2013, 11:36 AM
 
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I'm a guy.

And I'm definitely broken.

But one thing I've learned in my 20 some years , is that stubborn people do not make good friends, lovers, or partners.

If the person you're with refuses to even think about how you see things, I'd let him go. But please make sure you're financially able to get your own place first and such.

It sounds like there is communication issues between you two. I don't know who is at fault mainly or if it's both of you, but the way I see it is you have two options.

Leave as soon as possible. OR Start spending a little more time apart from him and do other things, or work a lot more, etc. And then see how things go. If they don't get better within the next year, you tried, and you probably shouldn't keep trying.
One of the best answers....I do love the guy but defending an ex is where I draw the line. It makes me look at him differently and want to be "friends" instead.
I just am scared if im overreacting and will miss out on a good guy over dumb situation. On the other hand I dated to mank jerks and don't do bs.
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Old 11-03-2013, 12:20 PM
 
Location: Europe
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A guy who is not on your side and who does not support you during your loss -is not worth it.
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Old 11-03-2013, 12:27 PM
 
Location: Newport Beach, California
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Yes hes the best guy I been with. He takes care of me if I need anything. He makes me laugh and tells me he loves me he loves everyday sending hearts and tells me im beautiful and how hes lucky.
I just feel he was outta line and something in my head went off like redflag since he wasnt defending me. I have no problem dropping people who are full of ****. Im just gonna talk to him and if he doesn't listen and apologize then im out. Thanks hun
Sounds great. good luck and take care sweetie

hope you are doing well today.

((( )))
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Old 11-03-2013, 04:00 PM
 
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Sounds great. good luck and take care sweetie

hope you are doing well today.

((( )))
Thank you dear for you kind words...have a great day
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