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Old 11-03-2013, 07:04 PM
 
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I have a huge crush.....and will just let life take its course.
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Old 11-03-2013, 07:27 PM
 
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I don't know. One guy at my work still pines over his ex and they were split up over 20 years ago. She moved on he didnt

OMG!!!! 20 years!!! I know someone who's like that too and he's married!!!!! I once had a crush on this guy for 1-2 years!!!! It was crazy! I know! But I was also 14 years old. Moving forward, my crush lasted for a few months if I have to see him daily. If I don't see him, then I get over him quicker, but I usually crush on the people who are close in proximity to me, so it's harder. Like for this guy, I think I'll see him from time to time you know. But I'll wait 2-3 weeks before I have to so I can get over him before then. Sighhhhhh life!
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Old 11-03-2013, 07:32 PM
 
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OP, maybe you should cut contact.
Also go out as much as you can, meet new and interesting people, take up new hobbies, and you'll find that your plate is so full, you won't have time to remember him.


I don´t get this. If I see somebody is uninterested in me, I'm not going to pine for or fight for his attention, it just seems silly to me. I don't even understand how people can be desperate to win somebody's heart. Either it's given freely or I don't f*cking want it.

Yeah, I'm cutting contact. I deleted his messages/emails, etc....
The problem is my plate is full at the moment, and instead of helping me not think about him, he kind of interferes with my "plate" lol if that makes any sense

For your second opinion, I think for some, the thought/feeling of trying to pursue that other person attracted them. "Conquering" that other person means a lot to them. Anyhow, I am not trying to "win" over his heart, I just can't get over him right now.
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Old 11-03-2013, 07:33 PM
 
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I have a huge crush.....and will just let life take its course.


How do you keep your emotion in check?
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Old 11-03-2013, 07:39 PM
 
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How do you keep your emotion in check?

It's very hard at times. Sometimes I just want to jump his bones.
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Old 11-03-2013, 07:47 PM
 
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How do you keep your emotion in check?

Unrequited love... Ah, my favorite kup o' tea. For me, it was a soul sickening medieval torture, and I found myself all too willing to lock myself into the pillory. It was crushing, demoralizing, and did absolutely nothing for my self esteem. In my early thirties, life changing events suddenly made me unattractive to the caliber of women I'd grown so fond of. It took far too many years to accept my new station in life, so I simply fell in love with a few actresses, and I watched their movies. Penelope Cruz, Monica Bellucci, and Leonor Watling largely got me through my thirties and I lived vicariously through the silver screen.

I simply became comfortable with living single. It took me the better part of ten years, but it happened. Whenever I found myself becoming enamored with some woman I was rubbing elbows with, I made a realistic checklist and discovered that I just wasn't right for her. I'd sometimes run into women I found dreamy, and we'd have a chat, I'd make her giggle, and I'd find myself entertaining ideas I knew could never happen. Cue Starland Vocal Band, I'd see myself walking off into the sunset with her on a windy beach, tumbling arm in arm through the shimmering waves of a tall wind blown grassy field, and as I played the tape through, cue sound of record needle skating across an LP, she'd cheat on me, leave me, and call me a loser! Harsh I know, but it kept me from chasing after women who were unavailable, I was wrong for, or were simply out of my league.

Once I got comfortable living single and recognized my limitations, the opposite sex just blended in with the crowd.

I'm not sure if this helped or if anybody can understand my insanity, but it worked for me.

Thanks for reading,
bolillo

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Old 11-03-2013, 10:30 PM
 
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The "badass" gets very soft here....

I love some people very much.

XOXO

I think they know (how) much.

Don't hide it well.
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Old 11-03-2013, 11:05 PM
 
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Unrequited love is very hard to cope with.
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Old 11-03-2013, 11:08 PM
 
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It's crazy!!! I don't know how people do it. Okay, the title is a bit misleading, but it's not really about loving someone you can't have. It's about the feeling of "liking" "loving" or "falling" for someone and the feeling of the "unknown". Regardless of whether you can get that person or not is not an issue. In my case, I think he's way out of my league and is currently emotional unavailable. I can't move on and it's killing me. Not to mention, we flirted and had a great time together. I don't like having a crush on someone. I don't want to feel this way. Arghhh!

How d'you forget someone quickly? If you have any suggestions on how to not feel, I would be more than happy to listen (or in this case, read).
How you do it?

You grow up and release this romantic notion of suffering for unrequited love.
You cease to be interested in those who aren't interested in you.

It's a maturity thing. You'll get there. Meanwhile, focus your attentions elsewhere.
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Old 11-03-2013, 11:17 PM
 
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Knowing 100% that someone doesn't want me instantly makes my blood run cold and I no longer want them anymore. Maybe it'll help you, OP, if you let go of any of your hope that you hold onto.

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