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Old 11-04-2013, 08:15 AM
 
Location: Fort Collins, co
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Default My child's teacher has crush on me

I have a situation that I really do not know how to handle, but it is fast becoming a problem for my wife, and could become a problem for my son.

I am pretty sure that my son's 2nd grade teacher has a crush on me. At 1st I thought it was all in my wife's head, and ignored it, but for the Halloween party she went out of her way to speak to me, and in front of my wife's friends treated me considerably nicer and was much friendlier to me than to any other parents. I picked up on it, despite not being all that good at being able to tell when I get hit on, but I ignored it and did not want to believe it.

To complicate things this teacher has went out of her way to make sure my wife does not feel comfortable volunteering in the classroom which is something my wife has always done with both of our kids. Unfortunately my wife's friends did not miss any of it, and brought it up to my wife.Who went from slightly annoyed/concerned to really upset about the whole mess.

Now I will say that this teacher is very attractive, younger then my wife and I, and is someone who I would have been interested in back when I was single, and my wife knows it. I have also been hit on many times over the years, but usually it is someone not a long term fixture in my life, or is a business contact and not someone that my wife spends any time around. While it is a nice boost to the ego when you get hit on, I am married and have been for a long time and have no interest in cheating on my wife. While my wife knows this, she is somewhat temperamental and I am getting concerned that she may raise hell about it.

Outside of changing my sons school, I do not know what to do about this situation, as I am concerned that my son will pay the price if my wife decides to start raising hell about this whole situation. so my question is has anybody else on here been in this situation? What can I do to keep my wife happy, while not upsetting the teacher and having my son have to deal with the problems? Is it wrong to reassure my wife that nothing will happen, but tell her repeatedly not to mention it?
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Old 11-04-2013, 08:18 AM
 
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Do nothing. Nothing at all. Your son will be changing grades and teachers in just a few months.

How long have you been married, btw?
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Old 11-04-2013, 08:20 AM
 
Location: Fort Collins, co
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Do nothing. Nothing at all. Your son will be changing grades and teachers in just a few months.

How long have you been married, btw?
It will be 15 years in February.
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Old 11-04-2013, 08:22 AM
 
Location: Pa
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It's nice that you still have it, but yes the yr will be over before you know it.
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Old 11-04-2013, 08:23 AM
 
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Can you use the situation to your advantage, remaining diplomatic with all sides and just making sure you are not put in a compromising position? Perhaps your wife could volunteer in another classroom?
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Old 11-04-2013, 08:23 AM
 
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It will be 15 years in February.
Okay. Don't worry. You haven't done anything so there is nothing that you need to do differently or change. Like I said, it's a temporary situation anyway.
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Old 11-04-2013, 08:25 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Do nothing. Nothing at all. Your son will be changing grades and teachers in just a few months.
What she said. Avoid the teacher and wait it out. If she's still smitten and continues to flirt with you next year, you can either tell her that she is making you and your wife very uncomfortable or talk to the principal. I wouldn't do anything this year. It's much easier to give her a wide berth than to open a can of worms that--you're right--might affect your son while he is in her class.
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Old 11-04-2013, 08:33 AM
 
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scratch your butt, pick your nose and wave your boogers around her hair that should solve the issue.
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Old 11-04-2013, 08:35 AM
 
Location: Columbia, SC
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What you have is a molehill. Yet, you're trying to turn it into a mountain.
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Old 11-04-2013, 08:38 AM
 
Location: Hudson County, NJ
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Wait it out and avoid contact. I wouldn't worry about your son losing out, it's 2nd grade. Nothing is too serious then, although it is part of building the foundation. I doubt the teacher is going to risk her job over spite.
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