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Many on here have discussions of being pursued. Men don't pursue me or women don't pursue me and such. But my question is if you are the person that goes after someone "normally", but then the tables are turned and someone pursues you, does it bother you?
Not much that's usually shocking per se. It may be a surprise when the person does not seem to have that aggressiveness but is the pursuer, And also the manner in which they address the situation. I was surprised by this once actually. A woman gave me her number, I informed her I have a girlfriend and she said to call right away if we split up. That was kind of surprising. I crumpled the number up the minute she left.
If someone pursues me, then I wouldn't care as long as they respected whichever wishes of mine I told them (such as to stop pursuing me, or to continue to do what he or she wants, et cetera).
Many on here have discussions of being pursued. Men don't pursue me or women don't pursue me and such. But my question is if you are the person that goes after someone "normally", but then the tables are turned and someone pursues you, does it bother you?
In real life I was mostly shocked.
It doesn't bother me, but like you if it does happen to me, I am taken off guard and surprised. Most times, which really means any time it happens, I don't even recognize it. I am absolutely clueless if a woman makes a move on me. I always assume she is just being nice and making conversation. Unless she makes her intentions chrystal clear, I assume absolutely nothing
Many on here have discussions of being pursued. Men don't pursue me or women don't pursue me and such. But my question is if you are the person that goes after someone "normally", but then the tables are turned and someone pursues you, does it bother you?
In real life I was mostly shocked.
For me, it happens so rarely, that when it does, I have to be extremely sharp to not screw it up.
The only way I can explain it, is that it's kind of like dancing. Due to societal roles, I lead. But if I dance and not lead, I struggle.
The dynamic IS a little different. Even though it is a similar activity.
However, for me, with the right person, things can go smoothly. If they do it right for me. But they have to speak my language. If they don't speak my language, "It's a fumble!"
It doesn't bother me if I'm pursued, but that doesn't mean it's a slam dunk and that I won't screw it up.
Many on here have discussions of being pursued. Men don't pursue me or women don't pursue me and such. But my question is if you are the person that goes after someone "normally", but then the tables are turned and someone pursues you, does it bother you?
In real life I was mostly shocked.
It's never happened.
If it did? If a woman walked up to me and said I was hot/cute and asked me out and 'let's see what happens' it would pretty much change the way I think about life.
Many on here have discussions of being pursued. Men don't pursue me or women don't pursue me and such. But my question is if you are the person that goes after someone "normally", but then the tables are turned and someone pursues you, does it bother you?
In real life I was mostly shocked.
To tell the truth, I am often pursued. It can be flattering, it can be scary, depending on who is pursuing. It can even be... embarrassing when I remember that I'm in the group that should do the pursuing, but then again, I am pursuing something else, so there you have it.
my question is if you are the person that goes after someone "normally", but then the tables are turned and someone pursues you, does it bother you?
in theory, it's fine. no problem with it.
in practice, literally every woman who has ever approached me (blatantly, like a man typically would) was someone i didn't want to date, either on account of looks, morality, or personality.
so just out of observation, if someone hits on me, i assume something is wrong with them. i've grown accustomed to the assumption that quality women have to be sought-out.
Last edited by le roi; 11-06-2013 at 02:04 PM..
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