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Old 11-07-2013, 12:23 PM
 
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Considering there are are more feminine men and more masculine women today, than ever before, there is indeed more couples where the woman is the dominant personality in the relationship. Is this upside down setup more common, I don't think so. Remember one thing. Men in general, prefer feminine women and women, in general prefer masculine men. This has never nor will it ever change.

 
Old 11-07-2013, 12:24 PM
 
Location: Glasgow, uk
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Lies, manipulation, blackmail, threats, trying to create jealousy, comparing me to men in movies, cutting off sex, etc.

None of it ever works. If a woman wants me to do something she should simply verbalized it and I'll decide if it's something I'm willing to do or not.


Your first point is not dominating, it's controlling and unhealthy behaviour. Your second point is what most relationships are like. We can't make someone do something they don't want to do.
 
Old 11-07-2013, 12:24 PM
 
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There is no equality in human relations. There is always a dominant party. This is a fact, not an opinion .
not really. it's an opinion.

Anyone IRL that does behave as such has been extremely poor relationship partners. I had a relationship with one, dated another, and I also have guy friends try to control 'their woman' as well.

This is one of my deal breakers.

It is a mindse some people have. The good ones at it are capable at hiding it so that other people dont realize it is happening. I consider it a form of manipulation.
 
Old 11-07-2013, 12:25 PM
 
Location: east coast
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I think the OP is a closet masochist, in the BDSM sense. He wants a woman to dominate him and force him to submit to her every whim. He is hoping to convince himself that all relationships work that way.
Just out of curiousity, do you oppose to your man saying that he wears the pants in the family? Don't read it into. A straight foward question that I would ask anyone but I wanted to get your view.
 
Old 11-07-2013, 12:26 PM
 
Location: Washington D.C. Area
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I think I'm understanding what the OP really wants with that new information. He is looking for a submissive and traditional housewife. A couple of them still exist but he needs to search real hard; they aren't abundant because that's not too common anymore. They aren't found in colleges nor workplaces. Frankly, I don't know what's so good about that.

Overall, the OP wants a reproducing machine that does nothing for a living other than cooking and cleaning; a woman he can easily control.
Not necessarily. I just want a woman who isn't selfish.
 
Old 11-07-2013, 12:26 PM
 
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Lies, manipulation, blackmail, threats, trying to create jealousy, comparing me to men in movies, cutting off sex, etc.

None of it ever works. If a woman wants me to do something she should simply verbalized it and I'll decide if it's something I'm willing to do or not.

Oh, okay. So this is the kind of woman you and your friends attract? Women who blackmail you?? Over what?
 
Old 11-07-2013, 12:28 PM
 
Location: east coast
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The OP must be looking for a ''Yes Sir'' woman type. If that's the case, ok then yes he can wait on his chair all day long or find a nun. No one likes being a slave to anyone nor to be bossed around.

It's about balancing things out in a relationship and working together as a team, not trying to feel like you're in control of the other.
For you as well. I am all for 50/50 but do you believe that a man should wear the pants in the family? Without play on words, just refer to the statement.
 
Old 11-07-2013, 12:30 PM
 
Location: Bronx, New York
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What does wear the pants mean to you because I have on pants right now?

I'm taking it to mean that if me and the old man disagree he gets the final vote simply because his sticks out and mine doesn't?

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For you as well. I am all for 50/50 but do you believe that a man should wear the pants in the family? Without play on words, just refer to the statement.
 
Old 11-07-2013, 12:31 PM
 
Location: east coast
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Question for the ladies-

How would you respond if you overheard your man talking to his male friends stating that he as a man takes his wife's opinion into consideration but ultimately makes the decision on what he as a man of the house feels is right? Would you oppose?

See.. these are the questions in which we will see who is who on this thread... Nope, don't start! I am not asking for a break down. Answer the question in its simplest form. It is a straight forward question.
 
Old 11-07-2013, 12:35 PM
 
Location: Bronx, New York
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Lol!

If that is what you mean by wearing the pants than the answer is I guess he doesn't because I have just as much sense as him. Sorry but I will not shut my mouth and just agree with what he wants if I truly feel that he is wrong. We can come to some sort of compromise but uh NO he is not going to have his way simply because he has a penis and I don't.

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What does wear the pants mean to you because I have on pants right now?

I'm taking it to mean that if me and the old man disagree he gets the final vote simply because his sticks out and mine doesn't?
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Answer the question, I will not let you tear the question apart. You know what it is. If not, go google the phrase and return to respond in context.
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