Why were our grandparents so successful in their relationships? (affair, issues, perfect)
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I love my grand parents a lot. Granpa lived to be 98. He had a shoe repair shop for many years. Granma lived to be 96. She was a mom at home (very good cook & baker) & had a big garden, fruit trees too. They had 8 children. They got married at 18/17. They were very good folks.
I loved my Granma on my mom's side too. She was a very hard worker. Her husband left her many years ago, Granma raised four daughters by herself. She was a very loving lady. Granma passed on when she was 88.
There's a practical reason for that. In the 1950s a steel welder could make enough to support a small family from a younger age. In the current harsh economic climate, that simply isn't viable for most Americans. If they do choose the family first it negatively impacts their socio-economic position in society, and often both parents will have to work just to keep everything afloat. So it isn't practical for young people today, especially if they're middle class or above with access to a potentially lucrative career, to start a family at the same time. Seeing as how many people in the middle class are slipping down the scales, people are more career focused than ever.
This is very true. We don't realize how much we are allowing those who control the flow of money to break down the institution of family.
Nowadays, people wait until 36 so they have money to buy a 3-bedroom home in the suburbs, so they have money for their kids public school and YMCA ballet classes.
Back then, most people did not wait until "having made it" to get married. They just went ahead, early twenties, starting out, fighting many battles at the same time. It looks like they were more up to the fight. No wonder their marriages lasted longer. They grew up together through the battles, and became best friends in the process.
Nowadays, people wait until 36 so they have money to buy a 3-bedroom home in the suburbs, so they have money for their kids public school and YMCA ballet classes.
Back then, most people did not wait until "having made it" to get married. They just went ahead, early twenties, starting out, fighting many battles at the same time. It looks like they were more up to the fight. No wonder their marriages lasted longer. They grew up together through the battles, and became best friends in the process.
I didn't wait until I "had it made" either, and our marriage ended. We were 21 and 22. We had two children and our marriage lasted for nearly thirteen years. It was not a good marriage in the least.
there's a practical reason for that. In the 1950s a steel welder could make enough to support a small family from a younger age. In the current harsh economic climate, that simply isn't viable for most americans. If they do choose the family first it negatively impacts their socio-economic position in society, and often both parents will have to work just to keep everything afloat. So it isn't practical for young people today, especially if they're middle class or above with access to a potentially lucrative career, to start a family at the same time. Seeing as how many people in the middle class are slipping down the scales, people are more career focused than ever.
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Originally Posted by vx5650
this is very true. We don't realize how much we are allowing those who control the flow of money to break down the institution of family.
And being incredibly miserable throughout it all. It sounded great.
Some people choose those battles (kids, career, finances) in their life rather than video games and watching TV, and growing old alone. I don't think we should judge either. Except of course, the deadbeats.
I didn't wait until I "had it made" either, and our marriage ended. We were 21 and 22. We had two children and our marriage lasted for nearly thirteen years. It was not a good marriage in the least.
I didn't wait (22 and 23) and my marriage is incredible nearly 10 years, one kid, and and many moves later.
My in-laws didn't want us to get married. But they did everything 'by the book' and have a crappy marriage anyway.
Some things to consider. Also, post you own views as well--- Have people gone overboard with their expectations and requirements? Have people priced themselves out of the market? Did feminism kill relationships? Is it about competing with each other more so than helping each other?
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