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Old 11-09-2013, 03:11 PM
 
Location: Emerald Coast, FL
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I don't he really has trust issues. He knows I would never cheat on him.
Of course, that's what they all say! Until it happens.
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Old 11-09-2013, 03:12 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Same sex, appropriate

opposite sex, completely inappropriate
This^. I think the OP's boyfriend has trust issues.
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Old 11-09-2013, 03:16 PM
 
Location: La lune et les étoiles
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Yeah.. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks he was being weird. He just thinks it's strange for grown women to have sleepovers, I guess. lol.
There really is nothing strange about it. Even my mom, aunts and their friends still have sleepovers when someone comes from out of town and for their girls weekend getaways. Come to think of it so did my grandmother and great aunts.

What does your boyfriend think is happening?
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Old 11-09-2013, 03:47 PM
 
Location: palmsprings
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The concept of it is not good period .

Although it happens often. you gotta admit, if it was the other day around you'd be double thinking too. He just said it out loud instead of bottling it up and not tell you what is on he's mind. I rather someone be upfront about what is bothering the mind then not saying at all
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Old 11-09-2013, 03:58 PM
 
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I don't he really has trust issues. He knows I would never cheat on him. I think he think it's just immature behavior, which I will never understand. I've been with him for six years. He is just always worried about me and thinks I'm this delicate little flower.
Has he ever 'gone ballistic' over anything before?
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Old 11-09-2013, 04:00 PM
 
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If it was a male "friend".....maybe.

Other female friends?\

See you when I see you! lol
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Old 11-09-2013, 04:17 PM
 
Location: In nature
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So me and my boyfriend just had a huge argument about this and I'm interested in hearing people's viewpoints. Last night, I went out with a girlfriend for dinner and drinks. At around midnight, we went back to her place and I felt pretty tired from drinking and just decided to crash at her place. I live in Chicago and her place is like a 40 minute train ride from my apartment.

When I called my boyfriend (who I live with) last night to tell him I was staying over, he went ballistic. He said he didn't like it at all didn't think it was right for a grown woman to spend the night at a friend's house. He even told me he'd pay for my cab if I just came home. After arguing for a few minutes, I told him I was staying and that I would be home in the morning.

Is it me or is he overreacting? I just find this so weird. He also didn't like the fact that I've only known this girl for a couple months and that he's only met her once.
Dump him.
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Old 11-09-2013, 04:26 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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Same sex, appropriate

opposite sex, completely inappropriate
OP, I agree with the above, but I'm not done. Before you start thinking of breaking up with him, I can understand his side too, EVEN IF YOUR FRIEND IS A FEMALE TOO.

I'm a female & my BF spends a few nights at his brother's house maybe every few months. Now people may say, what's wrong with that, but his brother is not a single guy. His brother who he stays with is married & they have 3 little daughters. I personally don't really like it that he spends the night there, but him & I aren't married yet, so I can't say too much. My BF says that when we get married, that he won't do that anymore, so I guess he's getting this "fun" out of his system. He has 2 other siblings who he's not close with, so this particular brother is the only family member he sees on a regular basis. They also meet up for lunch during the brother's lunch break from work at times. My BF doesn't really have any friends either (like myself), so I guess he needs some outlet away from me. But I can completely understand your BF's side. It becomes bad when you notice that he's controlling about more & more things that you do.
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Old 11-09-2013, 04:30 PM
 
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Well if for instance the friend is a single party girl, I can understand him not liking your spending too much time together. It is very common for women to cheat after being inspired by hanging out and partying a lot with their single girlfriends. I don't know that this is the case, my point is merely that we don't know the whole story here.
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Old 11-09-2013, 04:31 PM
 
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So me and my boyfriend just had a huge argument about this and I'm interested in hearing people's viewpoints. Last night, I went out with a girlfriend for dinner and drinks. At around midnight, we went back to her place and I felt pretty tired from drinking and just decided to crash at her place. I live in Chicago and her place is like a 40 minute train ride from my apartment.

When I called my boyfriend (who I live with) last night to tell him I was staying over, he went ballistic. He said he didn't like it at all didn't think it was right for a grown woman to spend the night at a friend's house. He even told me he'd pay for my cab if I just came home. After arguing for a few minutes, I told him I was staying and that I would be home in the morning.

Is it me or is he overreacting? I just find this so weird. He also didn't like the fact that I've only known this girl for a couple months and that he's only met her once.
I think it's totally normal. I've done it all the time.
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