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Old 11-09-2013, 11:06 PM
 
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I have been out with this guy for one date. Casual dinner date, we talked for 1 and 1/2 hours about random things, we laughed and even talked about our family. At the end of the date, he walked me to my car and said that we should do this again soon. I kinda want to meetup with him again to see if things can progress further. It has been two weeks since our first date.

Here are the things that happened after our first date...

Tuesday: I text him to see how his week was going - responded right away... less than few min. - chatted for a little via text
Thursday: Ask him to see if he was free to hangout on the weekend but he had work. responded within an hour.
Saturday: He text me to see how my wonderful weekend was, I respond within less than 15 min. and then we chatted a little bit again via text
Wednesday: Since I didn't know about his weekend work schedule, I text him again to see if we meetup on the weekend, he text back and said "sorry, my work schedule is going to be like this until beginning of December"

I am so confused, I know he has a busy work schedule and I have a reg. 9-5 job. but I am pretty sure that he was free on couple of the weekdays because he works only 3-4 days a week.

I text back and said, I know you are busy person, but I would love to meetup again.
and he text back and said "totally"

Is he interested in another date? or is he not interested? I just need some advice, should I wait for him or just move on?

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Old 11-09-2013, 11:16 PM
 
Location: Pa
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What the hell?
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Old 11-09-2013, 11:19 PM
 
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I don't know, if he is "totally" interested then why isn't he setting up a time you two can get together? I think I would text him and tell him that you would like to get together with him soon, you know he is busy, but to let you know when he can get some free time to meet up. Throw it on his lap and then wait and see if he comes up with a time or not.
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Old 11-09-2013, 11:30 PM
 
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could be a few things-
1. he is too busy workwise,,,but i agree with you-he probly could have made something happen during a weeknight

2. he has a few women going at once

if i were you- and coming up on a weekend, if "he's too busy" you tell him , you are going out with the girls dancing, if he is fine with this,,,and no attempt to make plans beyond the weekend, then theirs your answer, -dont waste anymore time

dont allow him to keep you tagging along,
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Old 11-09-2013, 11:30 PM
 
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Well, you have asked him out twice and he has blown you off.

You could go ahead and say, 'Ok, well, let me know when works for you,' just because at this point you have nothing to lose, but it doesn't sound like it will be happening.

I'm sorry . I think he got back together with his ex or met someone else or has issues with women who are not meek or something.
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Old 11-09-2013, 11:34 PM
 
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Well, you have asked him out twice and he has blown you off.

You could go ahead and say, 'Ok, well, let me know when works for you,' just because at this point you have nothing to lose, but it doesn't sound like it will be happening.

I'm sorry . I think he got back together with his ex or met someone else or has issues with women who are not meek or something.
or has two-three women going at once, and trying to use her as a back-up , for as long as he can
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Old 11-10-2013, 03:25 AM
 
Location: The Valley of the Sun
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Not interested. If he were he'd make time for you.
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Old 11-10-2013, 05:17 AM
 
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Not interested. If he were he'd make time for you.
Exactly.

I was checking to see if he reached out but I only noticed once.

Really, people like to just go out and enjoy a nice evening with someone. I think since he is busy and such he's not looking for a LTR right now. He isn't a loser either since he didn't sleep with you.

I'd just right him down as a nice guy to go out with if he calls. In the mean time go out with others and keep playing the field.
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Old 11-10-2013, 06:39 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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dont expect a sec date
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Old 11-10-2013, 06:46 AM
 
Location: Greenbelt, MD
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It appears you were blown off.

I'd move on. I have no tolerance for game playing. Why he is playing with your feelings like this is something only he can answer. My suggestion is not to contact him again. You made enough of an effort.
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