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Since you are not happy and a bit bored I would discuss the possibility of an limited open relationship instead. It sounds like you all like different things.
Some people do not have that style in him. It appears to me it's possible you want to turn your husband/BF into a person he is not.
limited open relationship? Aren't they open or monogamous? Either way I highly doubt he would share me with anyone male or female...
You never know OP until you speak to him about. I would NEVER SAY you're bored. Talking is good.
Good luck.
Marriage suicide? Good think we aren't married then ... I have enough marbles with in this head to know enough not to say "hey baby, I'm bored with our sex life"...
I would be very careful on this. Is the marriage going OK? Any possibility of divorce or an affair? What if she then turns this around and uses it as a pretense to file divorce or abuse charges? You could spice things up in other ways other than resorting to anything to do with pain.
Yes, our rel'p is fine.
No
I am not a conniving witch looking to get my BF into trouble . And why the heck would I need that excuse to file for a divorce (which wouldn't happen since we are not married), you don't need a valid excuse for that these days, I could say he doesn't put the cap on the toothpaste and get divorced!
Did she have some kind of rape fantasy? If she did, that is not really that unusual. Many of my girlfriends have secretly told me they have fantasized about being raped (NOT by strangers) So it is not really "rape".
To me being aggressive just means total control. I want the man to have total control in the bedroom. That is hot!
limited open relationship? Aren't they open or monogamous? Either way I highly doubt he would share me with anyone male or female...
Bolded confuses me a little.
It seems you want one thing that he may not be able to do. I don't see harm in bringing up what you want but as I said this doesn't sound good, especially since you all have been together 10 years.
If he can't be more aggressive as you want maybe he will let you find someone on the side who will. But as you stated that's likely not going to be possible.
If it were me I'd consider it but only on a very limited basis, like an open agreement of sorts. Then again I am more open-minded than most people are. You only live once and you are entitled to have the sex life that you want.
It seems you want one thing that he may not be able to do. I don't see harm in bringing up what you want but as I said this doesn't sound good, especially since you all have been together 10 years.
If he can't be more aggressive as you want maybe he will let you find someone on the side who will. But as you stated that's likely not going to be possible.
If it were me I'd consider it but only on a very limited basis, like an open agreement of sorts. Then again I am more open-minded than most people are. You only live once and you are entitled to have the sex life that you want.
Yeah, I wasn't very clear when I wrote that...I meant it's either an open relationship or or in a monogamous relationship...never heard of open rel'ps being 'limited'
Yeah, I wasn't very clear when I wrote that...I meant it's either an open relationship or or in a monogamous relationship...never heard of open rel'ps being 'limited'
I wouldn't agree to unlimited sleeping around. That's what I meant. Maybe finding one other person who will give you want you want and that's sex the way you like it, no strings attached.
Hard to say but maybe. As I mentioned I never got the chance but in truth I do not think it would have mattered. It was total communication breakdown. I really had no idea.
Her cheating ended the relationship.
You are better off without her John. Consider yourself lucky.
Your OP didn't make it clear that you were the female half. The more information you put in the OP, the more likely you are to get helpful information. Does this lack of communication skills give us a hint as to what might be the problem? Neither men or women are mind readers.
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I have enough marbles with in this head to know enough not to say "hey baby, I'm bored with our sex life"...
. And why the heck would I need that excuse to file for a divorce (which wouldn't happen since we are not married), you don't need a valid excuse for that these days, I could say he doesn't put the cap on the toothpaste and get divorced!
