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Do you literally go up to the other person and go "my friend likes you"? I've had a guy say that to me. He said his friend was super shy but liked me and wanted to buy me a drink. I asked who his friend was and when he pointed to this super awkward looking guy in the corner, I immediately thought the wingman was better.
I've had girl and guy friends checking people out at the bar and often wondered if I shouldn't go up to them and tell them and try to set people up. I mean, why not. We probably won't ever see them again. Might be more embarrassing for my friend but I actually would have no idea what to say. My friend wanted to talk to this guy but was too shy so she pushed me in front of him and his friend to initiate conversation but I was too awkward and it backfired lol. I didn't think he was worth pursuing anyway and was trying to tell her it was a bad idea.
I think the better approach would be to make friends with them but they might think I was the one interested.
I look at a wingman as a friend who is like your ego on display. Hopefully it's more subtle than saying "my friend likes you," as if you're on the playground.
S/he says the things you're thinking, behaves in ways that can engage the person you want to talk to, and s/he talks to the friend you aren't interested in so you can focus your efforts on the person you ARE interested in (assuming they are in a pair or group while out).
The wingman basically makes it easy for you to pursue the person you're interested in.
Do you literally go up to the other person and go "my friend likes you"? I've had a guy say that to me. He said his friend was super shy but liked me and wanted to buy me a drink. I asked who his friend was and when he pointed to this super awkward looking guy in the corner, I immediately thought the wingman was better.
I've had girl and guy friends checking people out at the bar and often wondered if I shouldn't go up to them and tell them and try to set people up. I mean, why not. We probably won't ever see them again. Might be more embarrassing for my friend but I actually would have no idea what to say. My friend wanted to talk to this guy but was too shy so she pushed me in front of him and his friend to initiate conversation but I was too awkward and it backfired lol. I didn't think he was worth pursuing anyway and was trying to tell her it was a bad idea.
I think the better approach would be to make friends with them but they might think I was the one interested.
Or this guy just said his friend like you just to talk to you.
He knows you won't like the guy he points to and he goes home with you.
The wingman basically makes it easy for you to pursue the person you're interested in.
This in a nutshell. I've been called "the best wingman ever" when my buddy and I were out doing the bar thing years back. (Not by him, by some girls that were often out with us.)
He'd find a target and I'd often start the setup with some simple talk. Get to know you kind of thing. Make sure she's single! (Very important) And just get a feel for her. Once he enters the picture, it becomes time to lob him some softballs to get/ maintain her interest. From there he's on his own. lol I don't go for "drunk bar girls" so I enjoyed being the wingman most of the time.
I would go over and say (example) "Hey, you want to join us?" I would facilitate conversation "You pay in a band? My GF here is a singer! What type of music do you play?", brag about her accomplishments "X is very well regarded in her field, she is very passionate about her work."
Stuff like that.
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I would go over and say (example) "Hey, you want to join us?" I would facilitate conversation "You pay in a band? My GF here is a singer! What type of music do you play?", brag about her accomplishments "X is very well regarded in her field, she is very passionate about her work."
Stuff like that.
Yup. It really all depends on how well you and your friend know each other. You can play off each other like that and really make it work. My buddy and I have known each other since 9th grade, so it was easy.
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Yup. It really all depends on how well you and your friend know each other. You can play off each other like that and really make it work. My buddy and I have known each other since 9th grade, so it was easy.
