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Either you are or you aren't. That person probably always was, they just came out when the break up happened.
Exactly.
In my situation the guy for whom I was the last woman, just hadn't been able to acknowledge his sexuality before that point.
When he liked me so much but could just not get sexually interested he began to be more sure of his orientation. We became close friends and he said my patience and presence in his life gave him a safe place to be honest with himself.
I don't really know LOL. Hard to say but so far I've only seen a couple of exes with their new boyfriends which is no big deal for me. Happy for them and move on.
A couple of my buddies have had their ex-girlfriends go complete 180, and I sometimes playfully tease them about it.
"You ruined that woman who now plays catcher with more catchers!"
Had a few that kept me wondering, that's all I'll say about that issue. I'll also say, anyone who ever thought otherwise of me should be.......should be.......should be..........
I did a lot of theatre in college, which is Ground Zero for sexually ambiguous types, so that was my main peer group, and there were a lot of crushes on guys who identified as bisexual, many of whom went on to identify as gay. I had one shortish relationship with a guy I knew to be bi my junior year, but who I also knew had previously engaged to a woman. After dating him, I more or less assumed he was probably not actually attracted to women, but due to a pretty repressive family life, would probably never openly live a gay lifestyle...pretty repressed and unhappy guy. I heard years later, he married a woman, though, so who knows?
I don't get people who are confused and pull someone perfectly straight, straighter than straight... into their delima and confusion with them. If you don't know or aren't sure, don't waste a guy who swings axe handles like toothpics time. He's never confused that he loves the PTA..........
I swear. some women get off messing up our heads sometimes....it must be a challenge to see who can drive him mental or bonkers first.
I swear. some women get off messing up our heads sometimes....it must be a challenge to see who can drive him mental or bonkers first.
Yeah, I was married for 23 years to a man who came out gay 3 days after Christmas and then begged me to keep his secret. Right, so he can keep his cover but go do what he wants. I told him he was a coward and told my family and encouraged him strongly to tell his. Of course they didn't reject him. I strongly believe that he didn't choose this but I also would not have chosen to marry a man who I didn't think was all in. Now he's remarried to a nice man and they had to go to another state to get married.
My initial feelings were of relief that there was nothing I could have done so I didn't have to blame myself--of course there were things I could have done different but if it had been another woman I would have been wild. Later, I felt worse b/c I realized that I'd just spent half my life with someone who was incapable of loving me any more than you would a favorite roommate and not as much as his dog.
Yeah, I was married for 23 years to a man who came out gay 3 days after Christmas and then begged me to keep his secret. Right, so he can keep his cover but go do what he wants. I told him he was a coward and told my family and encouraged him strongly to tell his. Of course they didn't reject him. I strongly believe that he didn't choose this but I also would not have chosen to marry a man who I didn't think was all in. Now he's remarried to a nice man and they had to go to another state to get married.
My initial feelings were of relief that there was nothing I could have done so I didn't have to blame myself--of course there were things I could have done different but if it had been another woman I would have been wild. Later, I felt worse b/c I realized that I'd just spent half my life with someone who was incapable of loving me any more than you would a favorite roommate and not as much as his dog.
wow thats really deep. do you still keep in contact with him? have you ever been around his new husband?
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Exactly.
PLUS +1 more.........
