The Official "I'm Single and I hate Christmas" thread (kid, call)
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I don't hate on anyone else's happiness, but I hate being alone for the holidays. Especially New Years Eve for some reason. I have no family out here, and all my close friends out here are in relationships, so they have each other to spend NYE with. My first NYE by myself was devastating! My marriage had just ended, she was out with some other guy that she left me for and I was sitting in a new apartment by myself just miserable, listening to fireworks going off. I don't think I will ever forget that night. Now it isn't as bad, I usually make sure I have movies to watch or whatever, but I won't lie it sucks and every year I keep saying this is going to be the year I find someone to do something with. Still got some time left this year, but it's not looking promising..
I wish i had the time to read this thread, as it sounds promising. perhaps later.
I donno, This past weekend I bought MYSELF a bunch of things I wanted for xmas.
Tools, movies, games.
Over xmas I will enjoy the time off work and work on some projects. Zip zip!
I'm looking forward to it.
Now, xmas with the right s/o is awesome, but since I don't have that, I'll make the most of things.
Besides, alone is better than xmas with the wrong s/o, and I had that two xmas' ago, and I'm really fine alone if that is the other alternative.
Don't mind me on xmas day, I'll be in the garage working on the car upgrades.
Oh yea, I'm the crazy neighbor in the garage. haha. Even on Xmas
Believe me, I'm not trying to be discompassionate. (Is that a word? If not, it is now.)
I've had a number of Christmases single. I've also had a few when I was alone--and by that I mean completely alone, in an apartment, just me, no family or friends around. Once was after a break-up of a multi-year relationship, the other was the first Christmas after my divorce.
However, I'm not so bratty and immature as to get annoyed at people who are having a better time of something than I am. That is just narcissism at its finest. The people who fuss and carry on about this kind of thing need to get out of their own heads and go volunteer. It will put things in perspective for them, and it will demonstrate that they have something to offer the world other than relentless self-pity and negativity.
The bolded is me.
This will be my 7th year in a row spending December 25 alone. It doesn't bother me anymore than all the other days since I am not religious and do not celebrate. I'd rather not be alone so much, period. Christmas has nothing to do with it but maybe in some ways it is like an extra reminder.
I've made an extra effort earlier this year to fix this problem to no avail. The multiple rejections on all levels are beyond frustrating and is very disheartening.
This year was my very first Thanksgiving alone. I thought of it as a day off work, was able to sleep in and then get chores done. There was no way I was going to go to any store on Thanksgiving. I don't like that some folks have to work on a holiday just so someone else can shop. Really?
I don't hate Christmas. But because my breakup still stings, I don't like walking into the store and hearing "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas".
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I'll likely be spending Christmas alone. I am just going to stock up on alcohol and play Xbox 360. One good thing about not being religious anymore is that I don't have to go to church and be around all the family stuff.
[quote=The Dissenter;32460041 One good thing about not being religious anymore is that I don't have to go to church and be around all the family stuff.[/quote]
Your one of the lucky ones........
I do attend church; and it greatly pains me to see the "family stuff" you describe. Perhaps, because I'll most likely never have one.
This will be the first Christmas that I actually am single in years officially. I was married and spent half the Christmas's alone and the other half at his family's place. Last year I was with the ex-boyfriend and I was dealing with some family issues. He got mad because I was on the phone trying to sort my mentally ill brother's issues out. He told me I wasn't helping with dinner. Um..you have two daughter's who are sitting on their butts doing nothing. They can help.
Instead of spending money on his two bratty teenagers I adopted two kids from the salvation army angel tree.
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Originally Posted by Milton Thompson
Your one of the lucky ones........
I do attend church; and it greatly pains me to see the "family stuff" you describe. Perhaps, because I'll most likely never have one.
Trust me, I hated being a Christian as a childfree person. It made me feel like I didn't matter. Ironically Jesus was never married or a parent and no one gave him about it.
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Perhaps, because I'll most likely never have one.
about it. 
