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Basically, a woman should bow down to her husband and never ever create any conflict, even if she's miserable because men are apparently unable to handle any sort of disagreement and will act like spoiled children.
Did I get the gist of the article?
No part of any MRA literature ever at alll ever ever has ever said anything like that.
You create strawmen and attack perceived enemies to deal with your own psychoses, and you need to stop.
Why is it that the women should change how they communicate, rather than the man? Why isn't the article "For a Happy Marriage, Both Partners Should Communicate Thoughtfully and Effectively and Listen to Each Other" ?
Generally when I have gotten screaming angry (in a relationship context) it is about something that has been an issue for a long time that has been ignored, avoided, or outright dismissed as important even though I have tried to get my partner to address it, fix it, work it out, come up with a solution together, understand how I feel about it, etc.
This a zillion times. But...we women are all to mold ourselves to the like of grunting beasts who only make noises during sex (because, HIS is the BEST don't cha know...that we ever, ever had) and to announce that the sandwiches are ready. To Hades with that jibba jabba about fixing our marital problems and issues like normal, sentient human beings. Men are only human after all, and thousands of years of evolution to use language? Bump that. Who needs to talk about their unique and complex day to day tasks with their partner? Sweep that boiling resentment under the carpet, dummy, that's why we have a carpet.
the point is that arguing from an emotionalist standpoint when you get angry during an argument is a bad idea and leads to more discord. ANY people who can't calm down and walk away or just not get angry should walk away from the conversation and talk about it later when they've calmed down
WOMEN are more susceptible to this problem, and are more likely to be deeply vindictive while they're angry. It's not relegated solely to women, but there is some number/percentage prevalence differential
WOMEN are more susceptible to this problem and are more likely to be deeply vindictive while they're angry. It's not relegated solely to women, but there is some number/percentage prevalence differential
I'd like to see your graph presenting all relevant research.
I think what is being stated as avoiding conflict is actually ignoring the elephant in the room and lack of communication skills.
(many) Men like avoidance. They believe when women verbally express concerns and try to resolve problems they are nagging and when conflict is not vocalized men think everything is ok when in fact it is merely festering. Then men act surprised when women finally give up, clam up and move on.
True. I certainly can NOT agree with this statement:
When a woman argues with a man, it reassures her, whereas the man can feel literally sick from it.
not true of all women but of many in comparison to men
women have higher tolerance for stress and like a certain amount of ambiguity and uncertainty and tension in their relationships. women create stress its stimulates them.
likes to be kept guessing--- is an old adage but a true one for women.
steady eddy is a necessity not a preference for women.
Last edited by Huckleberry3911948; 11-22-2013 at 10:43 PM..
Please. Let's not play "I'm not aware of the differences between men and women."
I don't have a study, obviously, it's just a general thing I've found between men and women.
If it doesn't ring true for you, then fine... then again maybe you're lying to yourself.
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