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I think you should go ahead and tell her that you can stay together if neither of you have to take your clothes off.
That should work out pretty well then she won't think you are shallow but she may think you need to see a Psychiatrist.
You're in the same spot OP, as a 30 year old who has never had any type of serious commitment. No marriage and no kids says a lot about what you are about at 40. Nothing wrong with taking this path, because I may end up on this path in ten years, but women do view us by age milestones. Like you said, you dated a lot of what you considered "hot women", but for some reason none of these situations materialized into anything long-term. You said dated, not relationship.
If you're chasing the perfect body, then you are basically looking for a woman that's just as self absorbed as you. There's nothing wrong with being self absorbed, if you accept the consequences of it. The problem is, as self absorbed as you are, if you date someone just like you, they are going to be just as self absorbed as you are too. You both are going to always be on guard monitoring your own flaws and their flaws as well. Who wants to be in a relationship where they feel they are always under the bright lights, and not collecting a lot of money or free swag?
If I'm getting paid to be fit, like a celebrity, then you can scrutinize my body all you want. If we are both just your "typical" human, then GTFO if you are going to judge my body. If I want to eat two servings of ice cream and I work out every day, I don't want be doucebag girlfriend or boyfriend monitoring what I eat.
I totally understand why you want her to be fit, but at 40, and you're still chasing for that perfect body, I have a feeling you will be in this same situation at 45, 50, 55, 60...... Well, you get the idea.
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To the naysayers, I have considered giving a fourth date a shot. No sex just a date.
Maybe I am capable of looking past something I don't like. That said, is this girl shallow for wanting a guy who happens to be in very good shape (while she is not)? Is she running a double standard herself.....
Don't drag it out. Just break it off right now. Don't let her get more emotionally invested. Just makes it that much worse.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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It's dirty.
If it is done right.
Actually, thinking about the most sensual women that have been in my life, I think Nila is generally right on that. Most of them read or write erotica, and there was niche softcore or fetish stuff sometimes, or, they mostly liked gay hardcore sex, but straight porn was low on their consuming list. Very low. Even r/l voyeurism of other straight sex was fairly uncommon there. Not a huge sample size though, unfortunately.
Other women less into sex consumed hardcore st8 sex porn more frequently.
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