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Jeeez. How do people wind up bring such chicken-****s?
Because they conflate hurt with harm, and they think that a good person never, ever, under any circumstances hurts other people. It's complete BS, and a very immature understanding of people and hurt, but here we are.
So i have been seeing this one girl now on and off for about 2 months. She's nice and i enjoyed spending time with her at first, however once i got to know her honestly i started liking her less and less. I feel like the biggest ******* in the world for not telling her as soon as i started feeling this way and leading her on instead. So one night we were supposed to get dinner together and i decided that i couldn't take it anymore, lying to myself and her that is. I decided to take the easy way out, which was a bad decision, i blocked her phone number and ignored her for about 4 days. She finally got in contact with my roommate through Facebook and he passed on the message, it was at that point that i felt so guilty that i knew i had to say something. So, i said something along the lines of...i'm not in a good state of mind right now, i just have too much going on to think about a relationship, I'm sorry for ignoring you honestly i just did not know what to say, i know that it was wrong..she replied very angrily which was expected, but then she asked to see me. After a long back and forth text battle, i decided that she deserved to at least see me if thats what she wanted after me ignoring her. We proceeded to get dinner and then went back to my apartment and I'm sure that you can figure the rest out...we continued seeing each other for about 2 weeks, until last night....we were supposed to meet up again! and i decided to do the same thing again...ignore her....why did i do this?? Im not a mean person, i don't like to be mean, i have so much stress in my life as it is, i didn't know what to even say. What do i say to her?? I am sure that i can't continue to see her anymore, as I'm sure that she will not want to, however i feel that she at least deserves an explanation, but i can't provide one because i don't know my reasoning? Is it because i don't think she's that attractive? or what is it i just don't know what to say to her to make myself feel less guilty and end this thing right.
Thanks for the help
Doing a disappearing act is one of the most cowardly and despicable things you can do to someone. Frankly, I think people who do that are just trash.
You are immature as hell. You are also being selfish and manipulative. Let's call this out for what it is: you are not into her, but you are keeping her around for now because she willing sex partner. That's all this really is. All you talk about guilt is just a smokescreen.
Stop traumatizing this poor woman with your boy-man BS. Break it off with her and leave her alone. Then, work on becoming a decent human being before inflicting yourself on your next victim.
yeah i am a nice guy, I'm just under a lot of pressure right now. my mom has cancer millions of things are going on in my life, and i just can't take on anymore, i know dissapearing was the most improper way to do this. I don't know why i took the path that i did.
yeah i am a nice guy, I'm just under a lot of pressure right now. my mom has cancer millions of things are going on in my life, and i just can't take on anymore, i know dissapearing was the most improper way to do this. I don't know why i took the path that i did.
Face facts. You don't like her anymore. Don't beat yourself up for it. That's what dating is all about. You try them out. Lots of "relationships" don't work out. Just call her and tell her you're busy with other stuff and you just prefer to end it. If she wants an explanation, just tell her you don't feel like it. And if that's not enough, then too bad for her. Nice guys break up too. You're a man. You get to pick who you date.
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