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People who find it daunting, what are you afraid will happen?
NilaJones--
The last girl I dated was a mistake, as she had been a friend for at least two years before going out with her. It took me the better part of a month to finally stop waffling back and forth - I was afraid I'd lose her as a friend, too.
(I didn't - she's still very high on the friend ladder.)
They may key your car
They may egg your house
They might bang your sibling
They might get you fired from your job
They might poor their drink on you
They might drunk dial you
Oddly, I have never had any of these things actually happen regarding an ex.
Crazy how even the crazy people aren't that crazy, even though some people are really really afraid something crazy will happen.
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Originally Posted by NilaJones
People who find it daunting, what are you afraid will happen?
I'm afraid I'm going to break their heart beyond repair. This person did nothing wrong but because I just don't feel them, I may break their heart and it won't ever heal.
Well, my only real breakup so far was mutual, and he had already been dating someone for several months before we broke up so it really didn't hurt me at all.
I have had SEVERAL men just up and disappear on me, but none of those were relationships, just dating. It hurt to be rejected like that, but it's their loss.
My sister broke up with her boyfriend and he keyed her car, threw a brick through her windshield and stalked her at work for a few months until she had to get the police involved. He was a perfectly good guy too... no record, never really been in trouble and everyone liked him. He just snapped because he'd never really been rejected and took it out on my poor sister.
Well, my only real breakup so far was mutual, and he had already been dating someone for several months before we broke up so it really didn't hurt me at all.
I have had SEVERAL men just up and disappear on me, but none of those were relationships, just dating. It hurt to be rejected like that, but it's their loss.
My sister broke up with her boyfriend and he keyed her car, threw a brick through her windshield and stalked her at work for a few months until she had to get the police involved. He was a perfectly good guy too... no record, never really been in trouble and everyone liked him. He just snapped because he'd never really been rejected and took it out on my poor sister.
I have never ever heard of anyone goingto such lengths of revenge over rejection.
Not that I think you make this up, but your stories are so consistently extreme compared to men/women dynamics to almost anyone I've ever known.
Are you sure your sister didnt do something else to make the guy snap? Most well adjusted guys don't snap over simple rejection. I mean, it's like this... I have a decent job, friends, family, but my gf just dumped me so F' it all, I'll risk going to jail on multiple counts just to make my exgf miserable. I have the feeling your sis did something to make him snap, or the guy was a total piece of work to begin with, and your sis choose the wrong guy to date.
My sister broke up with her boyfriend and he keyed her car, threw a brick through her windshield and stalked her at work for a few months until she had to get the police involved. He was a perfectly good guy too... no record, never really been in trouble and everyone liked him. He just snapped because he'd never really been rejected and took it out on my poor sister.
There's no way he was 'perfectly good' and then randomly snapped. He had issues beforehand. I mean, I've thought about keying my exes' cars before but I'd never actually do it, let alone throw a brick through a windshield or stalk someone. I'm sure he seemed normal but never really was.
I have never ever heard of anyone goingto such lengths of revenge over rejection.
Not that I think you make this up, but your stories are so consistently extreme compared to men/women dynamics to almost anyone I've ever known.
Are you sure your sister didnt do something else to make the guy snap? Most well adjusted guys don't snap over simple rejection. I mean, it's like this... I have a decent job, friends, family, but my gf just dumped me so F' it all, I'll risk going to jail on multiple counts just to make my exgf miserable. I have the feeling your sis did something to make him snap, or the guy was a total piece of work to begin with, and your sis choose the wrong guy to date.
We actually all really liked him, he had a steady job, owned a house and treated my sister really well. I honestly think he just snapped. In talking to a few of his friends, he'd NEVER been rejected before and I guess he just didn't handle it well. Not long after that he ended up totaling his truck and getting a DUI as well.
Until I moved our of the area I grew up in, these stories WERE normal. It wasn't until I got away and saw 'normal' people did I realize how messed up the people I knew growing up were.
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Originally Posted by savoytruffle
There's no way he was 'perfectly good' and then randomly snapped. He had issues beforehand. I mean, I've thought about keying my exes' cars before but I'd never actually do it, let alone throw a brick through a windshield or stalk someone. I'm sure he seemed normal but never really was.
See above. I really think he just snapped.
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