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Old 11-25-2013, 11:04 AM
 
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So I have been thinking about losing my virginity to my boyfriend. He was my best friend for more than 5 years before we started dating and we have been dating a year now. We are both 20 years old. I am not sure yet about 100% if and when I want to have sex and if I am fully ready but I want to just let my boyfriend know that I hope he is the one I lose my virginity too.

Does that sound weird? Can I just tell him that? I am not sure how this all works at all. If it is normal to say it, how do I tell him that?
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Old 11-25-2013, 11:05 AM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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If you really have to ask this question, you are not ready (or mature enough) to be having sex.
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Old 11-25-2013, 11:12 AM
 
Location: Northern VA (for now)
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So I have been thinking about losing my virginity to my boyfriend. He was my best friend for more than 5 years before we started dating and we have been dating a year now. We are both 20 years old. I am not sure yet about 100% if and when I want to have sex and if I am fully ready but I want to just let my boyfriend know that I hope he is the one I lose my virginity too.

Does that sound weird? Can I just tell him that? I am not sure how this all works at all. If it is normal to say it, how do I tell him that?
Say "hey wanna ?" as casually as possible when you feel ready. Don't make it more complicated than it needs to be.
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Old 11-25-2013, 11:13 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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He's your best friend and you've known him for over six years, but there's been no mention of sex in that time and he doesn't know that you're a virgin?
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Old 11-25-2013, 11:17 AM
 
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Nothing more than a man repellant right there. Watch out that first step is a doozy.
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Old 11-25-2013, 11:33 AM
 
Location: Sugarland
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So I have been thinking about losing my virginity to my boyfriend. He was my best friend for more than 5 years before we started dating and we have been dating a year now. We are both 20 years old. I am not sure yet about 100% if and when I want to have sex and if I am fully ready but I want to just let my boyfriend know that I hope he is the one I lose my virginity too.

Does that sound weird? Can I just tell him that? I am not sure how this all works at all. If it is normal to say it, how do I tell him that?
I'm sure he'd rather you not tell him until you're ready to show him.
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Old 11-25-2013, 11:33 AM
 
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Usually these sorts of things progress without formal discussion...
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Old 11-25-2013, 12:29 PM
 
Location: Alaska
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When you're ready, just create the circumstances so it can happen. Also, make sure you have protection available. If it's a surprise, he may not be prepared and that can spoil the mood in more than one way.
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Old 11-25-2013, 03:15 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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talk is cheap....
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Old 11-25-2013, 03:25 PM
 
Location: My House
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So I have been thinking about losing my virginity to my boyfriend. He was my best friend for more than 5 years before we started dating and we have been dating a year now. We are both 20 years old. I am not sure yet about 100% if and when I want to have sex and if I am fully ready but I want to just let my boyfriend know that I hope he is the one I lose my virginity too.

Does that sound weird? Can I just tell him that? I am not sure how this all works at all. If it is normal to say it, how do I tell him that?
Nope. Don't ever mention it to him until you feel that you are ready for it.

It'll cause problems.
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