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There are no mutual break ups. What happens in reality is one person decides to leave and the other doesn't fight them on it. This is not a mutual break up.. This is one person having dignity and deciding to let the other leave if they want to leave.
There are no mutual break ups.
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Originally Posted by Collateral
And I've seen a cross eyed dog. Big deal. It's not the norm and it's very rare.
Which is it? Is it not the norm are is there no such thing?
How much are you willing to put up with from a guy before you dumper him?
I dumped a guy for:
- having horrible, misbehaved, dirty pets and he wasn't physically fit, but a nice guy
- being a horrible kisser, having two young children under the age of five, pushing alcohol on me on our dates and he acted like an old man (was only 34 when we dated)
- not telling me what he did for a living
- doing coke, not living in my city full-time and was obsessed with strippers
- being a touring musician = no trust, never home
- being cheap and asking to borrow money from me
- having herpes
- being disrespectful in public and making me his dirty little secret (he was not married, but wanted to continue being a player)
I've been dumped for
- not drinking alcohol on a date and not putting out
Can't really think of more...I've done more dumping.
Please put your gender when you answer plus the number of people you dated and dumped.
MEN: How much are you willing to put up with from a woman before you dumper her? Also.. out of all the women you've dated, how many did you dump?
WOMEN: exact same question.
Please put the reasons you dumped the people you dumped.
This might be hard to believe but I dumped 100% of the women I've ever dated. This was not always because I no longer want to be with them or lost attraction. It was always because either their behavior changed for the worse.. or I could just tell it was over and decided to bail first. There was only one mutual break-up where the girl moved away. She is the only one I'm still on good terms with.
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Originally Posted by Collateral
There are no mutual break ups. What happens in reality is one person decides to leave and the other doesn't fight them on it. This is not a mutual break up.. This is one person having dignity and deciding to let the other leave if they want to leave.
There are no mutual break ups.
I'm surprised nobody mentioned the above yet?
In the original post, he stated he was in a "mutual break up" ... and then he argues there is no such thing as "mutual break up".
Which is it? Is it not the norm are is there no such thing?
There are no truly mutual break ups. The only exceptions are situational ones... Like my example in the OP. But you never have a situation where both people decide they want out at the exact same time. That is pure BS
I've broken off with most of the women I dated - maybe 75%. The rest broke off with me. Mostly, they were incompatible in some important way, or a deal-breaker issue came to light.
There are no truly mutual break ups. The only exceptions are situational ones... Like my example in the OP. But you never have a situation where both people decide they want out at the exact same time. That is pure BS
Why do you think that? Is it because you've never experienced it? I don't think I've ever really experienced it but I don't doubt that it happens.
- having horrible, misbehaved, dirty pets and he wasn't physically fit, but a nice guy
- being a horrible kisser, having two young children under the age of five, pushing alcohol on me on our dates and he acted like an old man (was only 34 when we dated)
- not telling me what he did for a living
- doing coke, not living in my city full-time and was obsessed with strippers
- being a touring musician = no trust, never home
- being cheap and asking to borrow money from me
- having herpes
- being disrespectful in public and making me his dirty little secret (he was not married, but wanted to continue being a player)
I've been dumped for
- not drinking alcohol on a date and not putting out
Can't really think of more...I've done more dumping.
Why do you think that? Is it because you've never experienced it? I don't think I've ever really experienced it but I don't doubt that it happens.
Why do I think that? A little thing called = Logic.
A mutual break up means two people making the same decision INDEPENDENTLY at the EXACT same time. Like two people calling each other at the exact same time and getting a busy signal. To say it NEVER happens is probably a stretch, but the frequency is so low that you might as well say it never happens.
As I stated earlier.. deciding you want to break up and having your partner agree is not mutual. Mutual means you both decided to end it at the same time BEFORE knowing the other person wanted out. Then deciding to break up on "Friday" without knowing the other person also decided to break up on Friday.
I don't think not drinking alcohol on a date should be that unusual. First few dates I usually drive myself to the meeting place. I can't drive worth a crap if I've had even one drink. Plus it's empty calories... I rather enjoy dessert than a cocktail
But other people might have other reasons... recovering alcoholic, allergy, religious beliefs, etc. Some people might not like those reasons and hence break off the relationship. People have broken off relationships for all kinds of reasons.
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