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There are different kinds of hurt. Sometimes pain in life can't be avoided. Sometimes we can't avoid causing it. We can do our best to be mindful of it when we do and that we do so as little as possible.
But really what I am talking about is the sever psychological pain that comes from abuses that are not ordinary to life (or should not be). People don't usually share those things if they have been through them. Sometimes a person can not even realize that they are angry.They get so used to the pain that it seems normal to them. I was that person for a great deal of my life. I recall the day when I suddenly realized that I was very pissed off and that I had been for a really long time. Because someone recognized the problem stuck aorund and let me know that it was okay to feel that way but that it was time to let it go. He really helped me to start understanding what was going on with me and how to start letting go.
The relationship was short but had a powerful impact on my life. He could have just walked away like so many others did but he chose to hang around a while and throw me a much needed life preserver. The thing is that not everyone is cut out to be that person. it isn't easy to be aorund someone like the person I used to be. But I am grateful every day that he did.
Also not everyone in that state is ready to receive that kind of help. I was ready and at a point that I knew I had a problem, although not what it was and so was open to the advice I received.
The OP needs to decide if 1) she is ready and willing to hear some truths that might help he change and 2) is he up for that challenge and able to be that person. And if he isn't, that's okay. It is not his job to fix her. Ultimately It is hers.
then you were very lucky. most people today don't have the time or patience to deal with other people issues. it would take a special person .
There is this gal that I KNOW I can "get with". She has even made mention of it. BUT, she's so darn mean, I can't take that. I don't like MEAN people.
Have you ever met someone that you thought was cool but the attitude turned you off?
I know this girl who gets what she wants all the time, because she's fine. But for an angel she's a hot, hot mess, makes me so blind. But I don't mind.
There is this gal that I KNOW I can "get with". She has even made mention of it. BUT, she's so darn mean, I can't take that. I don't like MEAN people.
Have you ever met someone that you thought was cool but the attitude turned you off?
attitude turn offs usually mean not worth it. those are the hot girls that some guys like to hook up with but if the guy is not careful and does not drop her first, they can quickly become your worst nightmare after they take the guy for all he has.
Dumb advice. Don't nail anybody that you aren't prepared to send child support checks to for the next 18 years. And if she's as mean as the OP claims, that's not something he really wants to do.
Well, you obviously wrap it before you tap it! How is that dumb advice? Spermicide and a condom, never been known to fail.
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