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Having a "good personality" don't pay the bills and it doesn't get women's panties wet
A liitle crudely said but it is true. Personality doesn't over come bad teeth or some other feature that someone finds unattractive. For what ever reason many women and some men think it is wrong to acknowledge that they have to be physically attracted to someone to date them
Originally Posted by NilaJones Are you asking about the often heard comment where women say that for them sexual attraction is based on personality and takes several dates to happen?
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Originally Posted by TheHurricaneKid
Yes.
Ok, that's different from what most people seem to be assuming.
The key to understanding this is that for the most part, when women say 'personality' they mean compatibility'. And they mean the kind of compatibility where, if you become more compatible with one women then you become less compatible with pretty much every other woman in the universe.
And the reason it grows over time is that it takes time to get to know enough detail about a person to get a sense of compatibility at that level.
Women look for the one guy who suits them best, out of all possible guys -- and who does not suit anybody else as well. This is very different mindset from men, who tell each other to cast a wide net.
I think men would be a lot happier in dating if they took on a little bit of the 'only looking for one' mindset.
Instead of trying to appeal to lots of women, try to find the one woman who adores your natural and best self. Where does she hang out? How will she recognise you when she sees you? How will you recognise her?
As a (male) FWB of mine said, 'Wherever she is, she is looking for me as hard as I am looking for her.'
How do we become sexually attracted to a person with a good personality? We let him give us amazing orgasms. It's astonishing how one mind-blowing night in bed can increase physical attraction to an otherwise ordinary average guy. It's like he has a secret that the outside world doesn't see, but we do!
Major turn on. Like the Clark Kent-Superman thing.
I don't wish to just hook-up. I want to be naturally attracted to more women.
That won't happen if you don't take the time to see the beauty inside first....other than that it will only be by the "criteria" you've set up for your very visual world.
There are many plain-looking (according to other men) women that I find attractive, but as a young man, I find it a bit difficult to develop attraction where there is none. Some say alcohol helps, but, I do not wish to think that is a primary (or even secondary) factor. How do you develop this sexual attraction?
I think you can't force attraction. If you are not attracted to someone it's because both their looks and their personality are not attractive to you
Some like cool people, others funny, others intelligent people. You can try figuring out early on what personality traits you admire the most.
When I was young, I had a really hard time being attracted to people who didn't have an above average intelligence. No amount of self talk or denial helped me with that.
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