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But go on to say that men who aren't having success should lose weight, gain muscle, get better clothes, whiten (and/or straighten) teeth, wear cologne, get a good haircut, shave, smile more, etc.
All of those things are about how a man appears to a woman, not his personality.
In your case, your excess weight is affecting your personality. You're getting depressed about it. And I don't think it's women who have been saying "build muscle", it's other men. As for "better clothes", as I recall, you were the one who first raised the issue that the clothes you choose to wear don't fit in with the styles in your environment.
idk, Kid. You ask people for help, then you give them a hard time for offering advice? I'm sure you could find women just the way you are (minus the depression). You've provided evidence, in fact, that women are attracted to you. So...do whatever you want. Somehow, though, we get the impression that your current state isn't making you happy. That's why people give you a variety of suggestions.
In your case, your excess weight is affecting your personality. You're getting depressed about it. And I don't think it's women who have been saying "build muscle", it's other men. As for "better clothes", as I recall, you were the one who first raised the issue that the clothes you choose to wear don't fit in with the styles in your environment.
idk, Kid. You ask people for help, then you give them a hard time for offering advice? I'm sure you could find women just the way you are (minus the depression). You've provided evidence, in fact, that women are attracted to you. So...do whatever you want. Somehow, though, we get the impression that your current state isn't making you happy. That's why people give you a variety of suggestions.
For some odd reason I got a compliment on my suit and hair style by some woman recently. Normally it would make me happy, but it somehow didn't.
Because most women have seen men leave a decent woman with a personality to chase some airhead chick. Wishful thinking that the phrase may sink into men's heads?
But go on to say that men who aren't having success should lose weight, gain muscle, get better clothes, whiten (and/or straighten) teeth, wear cologne, get a good haircut, shave, smile more, etc.
All of those things are about how a man appears to a woman, not his personality.
Showing a better outward appearance is not about trying to be eye candy to women. It is about projecting your personality to others through visible means.
Being in shape, well groomed, sharply dressed, etc, shows others that you respect yourself enough to not look like a slob, are willing to work hard to make yourself healthy, and put in the effort to give a good first impression because you desire others to have a good impression of you.
As Ruth says too, doing all that can also have a positive effect on how you see yourself, which is also reflected in how others perceive you and your personality.
But go on to say that men who aren't having success should lose weight, gain muscle, get better clothes, whiten (and/or straighten) teeth, wear cologne, get a good haircut, shave, smile more, etc.
All of those things are about how a man appears to a woman, not his personality.
(women aren't exactly excepted here, a woman with a terrible boring personality will only take her so far)
To further illustrate my point, have you never met a woman who was physically a 10 or 9 and lose attraction to her based on how boring she was or just generally horrible personality? I have anyway.
But go on to say that men who aren't having success should lose weight, gain muscle, get better clothes, whiten (and/or straighten) teeth, wear cologne, get a good haircut, shave, smile more, etc.
You should do all of those things for yourself if that's what you want. If you're happy with how you look and feel, you don't need to do anything. It's true that if you display a good outward appearance you'll get more positive attention.
You're stuck inside your head way too much. Get away from the computer a little bit and just try to enjoy yourself. You seem like a good guy, so I hope you start feeling better.
Looks are extremely important to women dont listen to the poltically correct answers you get on here..
People are as shallow as their options..If a women on here says looks dont matter shes either bsing or if its true more then likely its because she cant afford to be picky about looks and isnt turning down male 9's or 10's she just cant get them..
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