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I tend to agree with John13 that many of the "likes" above are not exclusive to being single. (and in fact, some may be more difficult to achieve when single).
I was single for many, many years. I am married now. Looking back, I guess what I would now see as the greatest benefit to being single would be what many call freedom. The ability to make any and all decisions without consultation with a spouse. If I wanted to make a major purchase, travel somewhere, etc, I would just do it without having to make a joint decision with another person.
Now, I am not complaining. I love my spouse and have a great relationship with her. I have no desire to give up the benefits I find being in the relationship for the benefits of being single.
There are benefits and tradeoffs to both, one or the other is not a negative. For those who are single, they should take advantage of the benefits being single affords them and enjoy life! Not dwell on what they don't have.
There are benefits and tradeoffs to both, one or the other is not a negative.
For those who are single, they should take advantage of the benefits being
single affords them and enjoy life! Not dwell on what they don't have.
I agree 100%.
I am single now and have been married twice and had my share of relationships. I enjoy being single and I have enjoyed being married.
I guess what I enjoy now about being single is not having to put his needs and wants always before my own. Not having to deal with his drama/family/friends. Having MY bed all to myself, no snoring, cover hogging, being farted one, etc.
Being single means it is ok to meet and date new people.
With more life experience and exposure to more people, if one is willing, their outlook on society can change. It kind of opens your eyes as to how a lot of other people operate.
And if you are wise, you use that experience, that new knowledge to not let go of a good person over a silly trivial issue that may have been a deal breaker in the past, but now you have your foot out of your
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Freedom and flexibility, but it is nice to have dating/lovers in the mix.
Traveling is better alone. I've only traveled with a few SOs that I found it enjoyable to travel with. Generally I felt more restrained, went slower, played everything safer... and the benefit of company didn't make up for that. A couple of times it did.
The most enjoyable things about being single for me were keeping my own schedule without regard to anybody else's schedule, other than work's, making all financially-related decisions with only myself and my needs and wants to account for, and taking trips completely spontaneously (which ties in with both).
In a committed, cohabiting relationship, I keep my fiance apprised of my schedule and endeavor to match his, our finances are considered jointly as we are building a life together, and we plan travel together, obviously. Most everything else that was a perk of being single for me still applies when in a relationship.
While being single was more flexible, obviously, since you can get by with only considering yourself and your own needs in most personal decisions, the tradeoff of the flexibility for all the benefits of being in a committed, loving relationship relationship are more than fair, to me. That's probably not the case for everyone, but for me, it is. I liked being single, but sharing my life with a partner is something I like even better.
I can leave my stuff laying around without feeling guilty.
I go to Carls Jr. at midnight if I feel like it and nobody complains.
Putting on facemasks without scaring anybody.
Nobody complains about crumbs in the bed (love to eat chips while reading)
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