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Old 12-03-2013, 06:53 PM
 
Location: Seattle, WA
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Yup, men can get attached after and BEFORE sex
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Old 12-03-2013, 06:54 PM
 
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Oh sure. Sometimes it worked out well, plenty of times it didn't. Gotta keep trying.
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Old 12-03-2013, 07:02 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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Ever since I lost my male friend and haven't spoke to him for about 4-5 months, I'm wondering if guys can also feel something after having sex. I thought this was mainly seen in women but now I'm not so sure. He turned 26 last month and I send him a ''Happy b-day'' message on his facebook and said he can talk to me whenever he feels comfortable. Have also tried requesting him again but nothing.

My male friend was having issues and trouble with dates and nothing was working out for him. We made a deal which I now really regret it. It was to have sex with him but that afterward, we would forget it ever happen and to go back to just being friends. After we did it, he asked for another round. I noticed he seemed slightly more concentrated on the second time and was slower as if trying to make an impression.

The next day we were friends again but then within the following week, he started becoming distant. Suddenly, he wouldn't text me like usually or spend less time with me. At this point I was wondering what happened but when I confronted him about it, what I was about to hear wasn't something expected. He starts explaining how he has liked me for a long while but now feels strongly about me and thinks it's love. I got surprised by the moment he asked me to be his gf and everything he just revealed.

I don't feel the same way and it was just suppose to be a special favor to help him, so he wouldn't feel bad about not knowing what's it like to have sex. He wasn't spoken to me since and I missed our old friendship. I didn't intend for things to turn out this way. I found out from another friend that he still doesn't see me as a friend and is trying to get over me.
What??!!

I'm sorry I have to write something. Doing him a favor?? Man if the tables were turned and you were a guy we'd take you over hot coals. That's just a sh*tty thing to do.
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Old 12-03-2013, 07:10 PM
 
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What??!!

I'm sorry I have to write something. Doing him a favor?? Man if the tables were turned and you were a guy we'd take you over hot coals. That's just a sh*tty thing to do.
Well I thought he would understand that it wasn't going to mean anything serious. I underestimated him. I didn't want to see him frustrated over the whole virginity issue and was willing to do it with him and he agreed. But I really feel bad as if I didn't really help him in a positive way.
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Old 12-03-2013, 07:14 PM
 
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Ever since I lost my male friend and haven't spoke to him for about 4-5 months, I'm wondering if guys can also feel something after having sex. I thought this was mainly seen in women but now I'm not so sure. He turned 26 last month and I send him a ''Happy b-day'' message on his facebook and said he can talk to me whenever he feels comfortable. Have also tried requesting him again but nothing.

My male friend was having issues and trouble with dates and nothing was working out for him. We made a deal which I now really regret it. It was to have sex with him but that afterward, we would forget it ever happen and to go back to just being friends. After we did it, he asked for another round. I noticed he seemed slightly more concentrated on the second time and was slower as if trying to make an impression.

The next day we were friends again but then within the following week, he started becoming distant. Suddenly, he wouldn't text me like usually or spend less time with me. At this point I was wondering what happened but when I confronted him about it, what I was about to hear wasn't something expected. He starts explaining how he has liked me for a long while but now feels strongly about me and thinks it's love. I got surprised by the moment he asked me to be his gf and everything he just revealed.

I don't feel the same way and it was just suppose to be a special favor to help him, so he wouldn't feel bad about not knowing what's it like to have sex. He wasn't spoken to me since and I missed our old friendship. I didn't intend for things to turn out this way. I found out from another friend that he still doesn't see me as a friend and is trying to get over me.
From what I heard, virgin men get attached after sex.
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Old 12-03-2013, 07:28 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Men are exactly like women in that some of them get attached after sex and some don't.
This sums it up. I think many men get attached after sex in spite of themselves.
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Old 12-03-2013, 07:59 PM
 
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Well I thought he would understand that it wasn't going to mean anything serious. I underestimated him. I didn't want to see him frustrated over the whole virginity issue and was willing to do it with him and he agreed. But I really feel bad as if I didn't really help him in a positive way.
people don't like being charity cases even if they want the charity. I know you just wanted to help, he shouldn't have agreed if he was going to be so douchey afterwards, as long as you were clear that you didn't want anything more then this is on him ultimately.
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Old 12-03-2013, 08:27 PM
 
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people don't like being charity cases even if they want the charity. I know you just wanted to help, he shouldn't have agreed if he was going to be so douchey afterwards, as long as you were clear that you didn't want anything more then this is on him ultimately.
Why are you assuming they didn't communicate clearly about all this up front?

My understanding is that they did, and then his own feelings surprised him.

IME that happens a lot with guys and sex, and is nothing to do with virginity. It happens to old, experienced guys too.
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Old 12-03-2013, 08:36 PM
 
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Why are you assuming they didn't communicate clearly about all this up front?

My understanding is that they did, and then his own feelings surprised him.

IME that happens a lot with guys and sex, and is nothing to do with virginity. It happens to old, experienced guys too.
Yep, happened to me a few times. Or if they didn't want a relationship, they would get a little possessive when I would move on. weird.
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Old 12-03-2013, 09:53 PM
 
Location: If I tell you, will you visit?
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Yes. Sometimes if you just lie there afterwards, a stickiness can develop.
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