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In July I began seeing a man who was going thru a divorce. It started out as friends. His wife had multiple affairs thru out their 17 yr marriage and is living with the last one and engaged to him. She hates me, hates that we found each other and ended up happy and in love. She has made threats, harrasses him on a daily basis, all the while living with her new fiance. I have been able to tell a difference the days she has bothered him, he began to be with drawn from me. But on Tuesday, he never showed up like he always did, no call or text. I finally heard from him and he made excuses why he wasn't coming. First day in 3 months he hasnt came to see me. the same thing the next day, and now he wont text me or answer my calls. He wont see me. He says it is not me, the exwife is giving him heck and he don't know what to do. He won't show her fiance all the texts she sends him or tell her to leave him alone because they have a 11yr old daughter. He said he just needs time. He doesnt want to see me or talk to me while he sorts this out. I try not to text him but its hard not to. I am so hurt. Is anything about this normal? What should I do? I am 35, he is 49.
Until he's divorced, he's still married (obviously), so you were seeing a married man. Maybe best to wait until after the divorce to continue...? The soon-to-be ex could bring up in court that he's been seeing you, and twist it into a claim re: infidelity on his part. That could make things worse for him. Just something to consider.
Give him time. He may or may not come back to you. There is more risk in developing a relationship with someone going through a divorce or with someone who is newly divorced. He is still married and dealing with the emotions of going through a divorce.
Why in the f do you want to get involved with all of that mess.... surely there are plenty of men without all of that drama, much closer to your age you could be with????
He's old... I'm 44 and I'm saying this...... find some dude your age without the pyscho ex wife.....
Its hard to find a good guy, my age or not!!
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