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On the internet I like to vent about the fact that I am not good enough, due to the fact that I am single. I don't have a family to come back to for the holidays, I am not rich, I am not charismatic, I am not sexy, I am not experienced in bed, I am not a comedian, I will buy my car next year, I have not yet finished my education, I have poor memories (even though my memory is good), I don't have any exciting tales to tell, I have frequent nightmares, my good friends that I know well live elsewhere, I wear hearing aids AND glasses, I suck at reading body language, I am timid around women.
Okay, enough of drowning in your personal pity party. Dude, you have some real issues and if you read the above quoted it is painfully obvious that YOU are defeating yourself before you even get out of bed in the morning.
I see you've started yet another thread on your issues. I don't really know why you are asking people for advice because you have disregarded all of it in all your threads. You aren't doing anything to help yourself.
Okay, enough of drowning in your personal pity party. Dude, you have some real issues and if you read the above quoted it is painfully obvious that YOU are defeating yourself before you even get out of bed in the morning.
I see you've started yet another thread on your issues. I don't really know why you are asking people for advice because you have disregarded all of it in all your threads. You aren't doing anything to help yourself.
You know what?
You're right. I guess I will take my departure now.
On the internet I like to vent about the fact that I am not good enough, due to the fact that I am single. I don't have a family to come back to for the holidays, I am not rich, I am not charismatic, I am not sexy, I am not experienced in bed, I am not a comedian, I will buy my car next year, I have not yet finished my education, I have poor memories (even though my memory is good), I don't have any exciting tales to tell, I have frequent nightmares, my good friends that I know well live elsewhere, I wear hearing aids AND glasses, I suck at reading body language, I am timid around women.
Sure, I am knowledgeable, I am polite, I can have an interesting debate conversation, I like to listen to people, I can make people laugh *sonetimes*, but the fact is, I have not been able to capture and keep the interest of women like the men better than me have. My female friends said they wish their BFs were more like me, yet, I am not their BF.
Despite that, I do my best to keep a grin on my face and keep my frustrations online (one interesting thing is I've only heard advice for seeing a therapist is on CD). Do women really see through all of this? Or am I too inferior? Or do most people here get married early, and I've misses the boat?
Only the same as you notice it in women.
I have heard many women make self-deprecating comments. It's not an immediate turnoff and sometimes, if phrased right can be quite a plus. I need a person who has some humility.
Women apparently want a man who has not a shred of self doubt.
And yes, low self-esteem is one of the ugliest, most obnoxious traits a person can have. So, work on it.
How so?
How does a person with low self esteem become obnoxious.
From what I remember, people calling others ugly, making fun of women, and having ridiculously high standards are people with high self esteem. IMO, people with high self esteem are more likely to exhibit behavior with negative consequences towards others.
The posters here with lower self esteem who have been knocked down a couple of pegs because of whatever reason are generally less shallow.
If anything a woman prattling on and on about how she isn't so pretty might be annoying at worst.
Low self-esteem is obnoxious because it's generally indicative of someone who's incredibly self-centered and unreasonably self-conscious. I argue the exact opposite that you do: posters here with low self-esteem are the shallowest of them all because the only thing they focus on are their looks and status relative to peers and the media.
Sure, some people were bullied or whatever, and that led to their low self-esteem. That's legit, and I genuinely feel sorry for people like that. But the majority of the people here, whose insecurities manifest as "am I ugly?" or "men/women think I'm repulsive!" threads, just need to get over themselves.
Low self-esteem is obnoxious because it's generally indicative of someone who's incredibly self-centered and unreasonably self-conscious. I argue the exact opposite that you do: posters here with low self-esteem are the shallowest of them all because the only thing they focus on are their looks and status relative to peers and the media.
Sure, some people were bullied or whatever, and that led to their low self-esteem. That's legit, and I genuinely feel sorry for people like that. But the majority of the people here, whose insecurities manifest as "am I ugly?" or "men/women think I'm repulsive!" threads, just need to get over themselves.
Uh. Fishing for attention and compliments is not low self esteem.
The guy who made this thread has troubles with women and has trouble attracting women and has faced possibly a lot of rejection.
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