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We see this over and over, here, but where does it come from? The internet is full of accurate information, in addition to all the inaccurate stuff.
Why are so many young men unable to discern the difference? Why are they unable to absorb and process the info they get in this forum from real women, for example?
I started to type up a list of examples, but I'm sure you all know the stuff I'm referring to .
What makes the truth so difficult?
They read too many forum posts, watch too much porn and do not go out into the real world to get real physical experience instead of talking about it all the time.
some things cant easily be explained on an online forum....
why does a lady come into "instant heat" in front of a powerful man?? a rock star, a sports star?? a millionaire??
that she wouldnt give the time of day to the same guy without the fame/fortune
ive seen nice girls at a concert get "picked" to party with a band and guess what??
a girl, that a regular guy may otherwise take 3, 4, 6, months to have sex with,,,she's giving it up to essentially a stranger knowing she will never see him again...
Ive seen this first-hand...
Same holds true for both genders. It apparently is human nature to be drawn to celebrities.
"The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place." — Robert Briffault
That is very true. Women as sexual objects have saturated the media forever. I mean, do you see a Victoria's Secret Angels show with guys in it parading around? Guys half naked in wine commercials?
For a guy who hasn't had any personal experience with a woman, these images, coupled with inaccurate or unreliable opinions posing as facts and information, on the internet, skew reality.
I just watched a documentary called Miss Representation on Netflix about this very idea. Objectification in the media teaches young women that being hot is the only thing that's important, and it teaches young men that the only thing important or interesting about women is how hot they are. This in turn colors how women are viewed in journalism, politics, business, etc.
Sometimes people want to put in effort because they enjoy seeing another person happy... not just because they can get something out of it. It's a very common, and very selfish, way of going about things. I mean, I don't go out of my way to get up early and make my guy his favorite breakfast every Sunday because he'll be doing something for me later...I do it because I want to and because it makes him happy.
The entire CoD franchise is horribly boring to me. I've played a few of them and there are SO many better games out there that I could be playing, so why waste my time?
OMB has a point, and that subconscious "what do I get out of it?" mindset exists for many men, including myself. JetJockey is countering with (paraphrasing) "some people don't need to get something out of it, they do it because they like making someone else happy". But that's still "getting something out of it"...i.e. the pleasure of making someone else happy. She says it twice above.
You can argue that it's more altruisitic to get pleasure from pleasing others than it is to do things for your own benefit, but that's neither here nor there. The point is, you do things that please you. Maybe pleasing others is what pleases you. Maybe playing video games pleases you. But OMB's point still holds: If it's not worth my time, I'm not going to do it. And I can't speak for all men, but for me personally, many women are making things less and less worth my time. That's not to say I don't do anything for other people; of course I do. And I enjoy it. SOMETIMES. And sometimes, I would prefer to sit and do something that others would label "perpetual adolescence". If she has a problem with it, there's 3+ billion other guys out there.
Sometimes people want to put in effort because they enjoy seeing another person happy... not just because they can get something out of it. It's a very common, and very selfish, way of going about things. I mean, I don't go out of my way to get up early and make my guy his favorite breakfast every Sunday because he'll be doing something for me later...I do it because I want to and because it makes him happy.
The entire CoD franchise is horribly boring to me. I've played a few of them and there are SO many better games out there that I could be playing, so why waste my time?
The multiplayer Is kind of a mindless time waster that is still competitive and fun.
I try to get a group of friends online together, that is when it is the most fun. Working with a team of friends, catching up, laughing about the silly stuff in the game. It's almost sorta a social event in a way, except we are all at our homes.
I will go solo, but that is typcially when my stats get thrown out of whack, but it is still fun. Definitely a challenge though.
I'm sure you already understand the concept JJ, I would guess a lot of others who dont know video games dont realize as such.
If everyone worked to have a healthy attitude toward the other sex, and they, themselves, had confidence and self esteem before going in to a relationship, would half of the stuff on this thread be relevant? I mean, I see so much on this forum as reasons to carry acceptable hostility toward the opposite sex. False expectations. Ridiculous beliefs.
Man or woman, I don't think most are out there trying to get over one another when they feel good as who they are as a person.
Man or woman, If your head isn't right for you, then trying to have a relationship on any level becomes a truly selfish act. That's ok if you are honest about it, but most people can't be honest, even with themselves. So excuses, reasonable doubt, skewed statistics, any excuse to make the one's who can't be honest or suffer from lower self esteem, feel justified in their actions. Since the latter seems to be the greater number of people in society. This mindset becomes the norm and is perpetuated before we even realize we are absorbing these stereotypes from a very young age.
Just curious; What came first, crappy self esteem or relationships?
This is true. I think this is the reason when a man turns down a woman for sex they tend to get so angry/lose self esteem. Because hey...if men want sex all day every day and he doesn't want it with YOU at that particular moment there must be something wrong with you.
Exactly. This just shows how many women out there have no idea of male sexuality or believe what their sitcoms and chick flicks tell them male sexuality should be like.
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Originally Posted by srjth
The Grand Canyon exists between men and women in understanding each other.
CoD? Pssh. Neverwinter, b*tches. Well, soon-to-be Vindictus if it ever finishes patching.
Never heard of this. I'll look into it.
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