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This is for people who are/were married or in long-term committed relationships (years, not months), and who are older than early-mid 20s.
I'm interested in any examples of couples who have gone through infidelity, and who have successfully repaired their relationship, stayed together, and rebuilt trust.
Were you the betrayer or the betrayed?
Was the affair just sexual or an actual love affair?
How did the betrayed person learn about it? Does that affect the possibility of repairing the relationship?
Was it a one-night stand or a lengthy affair? Does that affect the possibility of repairing the relationship?
What did the betrayer do that resulted in the betrayed person trusting them again? How did the betrayer successfully turn things around?
What did the betrayed person do to be able to stay with the betrayer and trust them again?
Did the betrayed person have to take any responsibility for the partner's affair? Do you think an affair is always the fault of both members of the couple (the betrayer and the betrayed) or is the betrayer the one who was wrong, with the betrayed person being innocent?
Do you think couples really CAN survive infidelity, or do you think it should usually result in a breakup?
If it happens once, and the couple works to repair things, trust gets rebuilt, and then the betrayer does it again, does/should that result in a permanent breakup, or can it still be repaired?
I know infidelity is very common. I know (now) that statistically, more couples try to stay together and try to fix things, when I used to believe those were the rare cases and most couples broke up. But it appears that most attempt to repair things, but I can't find statistics on how many are actually successful. I wonder, for the couples who successfully got through it, what is it they did that made the repair successful?
Please share your thoughts, opinions, experiences.
When it comes to things like that. You see, she's very vivacious and outgoing. Also, a very giving person. If you're nice, she'll give you her time and just assume that the other person is the same way.
I married an absolute sweetheart, and that comes with a price.
I do think that some marriages can be repaired but not without serious lifestyle change and effort.
For example, let's say one spouse had a one night stand at a business trip. Unless that spouse was willing to (at a minimum) no longer go on business trips, then I would not consider attempting recovery.
Let's say it wasn't a one-night stand. Let's say your partner of over 10 years had a 9-10 month affair, you discovered it, you both decided to try again and try to work it out, things seemed to be going well, and then 2 years later your partner did it again, with a different person. This second time was also an affair of many months. Would you say there's no hope of reconciliation, or is there a chance?
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