When should we include my sister's new BF? (dating, wife, boyfriend)
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This is the deal; my sis and I are in our late forties. I have two kids, a husband and a house. She's divorced, no kids and an apartment. Consequently, we take care of every holiday and most birthdays (which includes my widowed mother) since our place is bigger and we have the family (easier for sis and mom to come here). It seems that every two years she gets a new boyfriend, who we end up including, and then they break up. My husband is not happy about strangers coming into our home, and us having to feed them. I'm more of the "more the merrier" type. After her divorce, she's now on BF number five (been together since the summer). She's upset that we did not invite the new guy for Thanksgving or Christmas. Are we wrong to do this?
Also, our mother isn't happy about meeting this guy since she's sick of the revolving door.
Wheres the holiday spirit Ive invited total strangers (even homeless people) into my home during the Holidays, and wouldn't think twice about inviting a siblings new SO. But that's just me.
Been together since the summer......still considered a stranger.
Hm.
What minimum length of time is she required to hang on to a man for, before the family will consider breaking bread with him? Surely this has been discussed.
This is the deal; my sis and I are in our late forties. I have two kids, a husband and a house. She's divorced, no kids and an apartment. Consequently, we take care of every holiday and most birthdays (which includes my widowed mother) since our place is bigger and we have the family (easier for sis and mom to come here). It seems that every two years she gets a new boyfriend, who we end up including, and then they break up. My husband is not happy about strangers coming into our home, and us having to feed them. I'm more of the "more the merrier" type. After her divorce, she's now on BF number five (been together since the summer). She's upset that we did not invite the new guy for Thanksgving or Christmas. Are we wrong to do this?
Also, our mother isn't happy about meeting this guy since she's sick of the revolving door.
I would love to invite my brother's friend to my house because I trust and love my brother! It seems to me that you just don't believe your sis is a good judge of character.
I don't think you are wrong because you have every single right to pick and choose whom to be invited to your house.
If I were you, I'd tell the sister that I didn't even know she was expecting an invitation. I'd play dumb.
In the extreme situations where your sister is choosing men terribly, such as ex-convicts, con-men, drug dealers, klepto's, she should probably leave those guys at home, or spend the day with the guy alone.
But if she is dating decent enough guys, I don't see the problem with the revolving door.
I've had a family member or two that dated kind of shady people, and they were in my home/family's home. No one ever said anything. I think the main concept here is that if something does happen, I would hold the family member 100% responsible. In your case, it would be your sister.
If my family told me that my gf at the time wasn't invited to an event, I would most likely stay home and do something/anything else that day.
This is the deal; my sis and I are in our late forties. I have two kids, a husband and a house. She's divorced, no kids and an apartment. Consequently, we take care of every holiday and most birthdays (which includes my widowed mother) since our place is bigger and we have the family (easier for sis and mom to come here). It seems that every two years she gets a new boyfriend, who we end up including, and then they break up. My husband is not happy about strangers coming into our home, and us having to feed them. I'm more of the "more the merrier" type. After her divorce, she's now on BF number five (been together since the summer). She's upset that we did not invite the new guy for Thanksgving or Christmas. Are we wrong to do this?
Also, our mother isn't happy about meeting this guy since she's sick of the revolving door.
Your husband needs an attitude adjustment, and you should feel badly about letting him convince you not to include whoever sis is dating when holidays roll around.
You husband has a home, a wife and kids - HE'S RICH.
Your sis has precious little and yet your guy wants to begrudge her the opportunity to share the holidays with a special person.
So what if she's on boyfriend #5? I mean really?? At least she's out there TRYING to live and enjoy her life - TRYING to find that someone special we all hope to have.
Shame on your husband for being so petty as to not want to welcome, or worse yet! FEED a stranger at Christmas
Wheres the holiday spirit Ive invited total strangers (even homeless people) into my home during the Holidays, and wouldn't think twice about inviting a siblings new SO. But that's just me.
This is the deal; my sis and I are in our late forties. I have two kids, a husband and a house. She's divorced, no kids and an apartment. Consequently, we take care of every holiday and most birthdays (which includes my widowed mother) since our place is bigger and we have the family (easier for sis and mom to come here). It seems that every two years she gets a new boyfriend, who we end up including, and then they break up. My husband is not happy about strangers coming into our home, and us having to feed them. I'm more of the "more the merrier" type. After her divorce, she's now on BF number five (been together since the summer). She's upset that we did not invite the new guy for Thanksgving or Christmas. Are we wrong to do this?
Also, our mother isn't happy about meeting this guy since she's sick of the revolving door.
My STBE brother inlaw did this. Except the women he'd date had kids and he'd BRING THEM!!
It's Christmas, all the nieces and nephews are getting presents while the gf's kids watch, no we weren't heartless. So we all offered to buy the first gf's kids gifts. Welllll they broke up and every year sense then he'd have a new gf with a new set of kids. He got to the point he'd email us to let us know what the kids wanted even though we never met them. The kicker was last Christmas because they broke up on Christmas morning and you guessed it we had gifts for her kids.
Thank gawd I don't have to deal with that crazy mess any longer!!!!
My STBE brother inlaw did this. Except the women he'd date had kids and he'd BRING THEM!!
It's Christmas, all the nieces and nephews are getting presents while the gf's kids watch, no we weren't heartless. So we all offered to buy the first gf's kids gifts. Welllll they broke up and every year sense then he'd have a new gf with a new set of kids. He got to the point he'd email us to let us know what the kids wanted even though we never met them. The kicker was last Christmas because they broke up on Christmas morning and you guessed it we had gifts for her kids.
Thank gawd I don't have to deal with that crazy mess any longer!!!!
Gee, I am so glad that you no longer have to deal with this mess!! God knows how hard it is to make EVERYBODY happy!!
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Ive invited total strangers (even homeless people) into my home during the Holidays, and wouldn't think twice about inviting a siblings new SO. But that's just me.
