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Yep, approach someone who looks like they are doing something less intense, like casual reading, people watching, etc. vs someone who is intensely studying or in general is sporting a frown or deep stare, at least in the case of a bookstore approach.
Bookstore and grocery store approaches are easy if there's a little cafe area or coffee bar in the building. Then it's easy to segue from a pleasant chat (assuming she's responding well, and seems interested) to buying her a coffee and sitting down to chat. Like Molli's post above illustrates.
That opens up intriguing possibilities. At least Whole Food shoppers tend to be intelligent and at least okay-looking. Want to share basic details about yourself (such as age, extraversion, and basic level of attractiveness)? Or the attractiveness level one of those guys must have in order to accept? Has it ever led to actual dating?
I did laundry at the laundry mat yesterday. Women dig a guy who does his own laundry, I flirted with several, if I was ready to date, it was rife with opportunity. Pick a laundry mat near a college, and I can't see how you can't get something going on
I recently posted an event on Meetup, had a guy RSVP for it and then send me a message asking about dinner sometime. Now, as an organizer for the group, I get a lot of vague requests like this from people who are suggesting events they'd like to see posted. So I asked what he had in mind. I don't get approached for dates so I figured it was 50/50 as to whether he was asking me out or asking I post a dinner event.
We went back and forth but didn't end up meeting because he was looking for a FWB, and I'm not. Plus, he's 30 and wasn't expecting "I just turned 40" when he asked how old I am. My Meetup profile picture was taken at the end of September but apparently, I look younger than I am in it.
Cold approaching worked for me insomuch as I went on a lot of dates (and then some ) with some of them.
I semi-cold approached my wife. She worked at a Boston Market that I went to sometimes. Then she quit. Months later I went in and she was in there saying hello to a friend. We recognized each other and I struck up a conversation with her. We went on a nice date a couple days later but circumstances weren't right for us at that time. But 8 months later we tried again and haven't split up yet!
I definitely think cold approaching is something to do with extreme caution though, and only if you are confident in yourself and your ability to read body language and detect signals. I didn't have a set formula as every situation was a little different. But generally I would try to make some benign small talk to gauge how receptive one was. If that went smoothly (and I was pretty careful about who I would approach, so it usually did) I would introduce myself and continue the conversation as the situation called for. More often than not I was successful, but again I stress how I was very selective about who I would approach. And developing that judgment is probably one of the most vital aspects to cold approaching.
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