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My ex of 8 years left me 8 months ago. he immediately started seeing someone else. As far as I know they are still together. He broke no contact last month first by texting my sister to find me(changed my #).
then before Thanksgiving by emailing me. He said he had a nightmare about me and wanted to make sure that I was okay so that he could sleep. I responded a few days later stupid I know. He responded asking me how I'm doing, a few inside jokes & that was it. I got extremely confused & upset so I turned off my mail entirely.
Fast forward to this month.: today I had to turn my mail back on for business.My ex emailed me 4 times Wednesday at 430am. I did not see them till just now. (he's a musician) he emailed me 4 of his new songs with his new band. Each email had one song & why I would like it. The last one said hope all is well merry Christmas! ..? I'm more angry than anything. I'm so sad & depressed. This is my first Christmas without him in 9 yrs.
Sounds like he's a little panicked that he may have made a mistake by letting you go.
At the very least he's questioning his decision.
But now YOU have to decide if you are really missing him in your life, or just feeling sentimental about being away from him at Christmas for the first time in so many years.
My ex of 8 years left me 8 months ago. he immediately started seeing someone else. As far as I know they are still together. He broke no contact last month first by texting my sister to find me(changed my #).
then before Thanksgiving by emailing me. He said he had a nightmare about me and wanted to make sure that I was okay so that he could sleep. I responded a few days later stupid I know. He responded asking me how I'm doing, a few inside jokes & that was it. I got extremely confused & upset so I turned off my mail entirely.
Fast forward to this month.: today I had to turn my mail back on for business.My ex emailed me 4 times Wednesday at 430am. I did not see them till just now. (he's a musician) he emailed me 4 of his new songs with his new band. Each email had one song & why I would like it. The last one said hope all is well merry Christmas! ..? I'm more angry than anything. I'm so sad & depressed. This is my first Christmas without him in 9 yrs.
Soo what do I do? Do I respond? It's Xmas eve & almost a week since he messaged me.
Only you can answer that question honey.
Do you still love him? Have you forgiven him for the pain he's caused you? Do you think he's a good guy, or a user who can't be alone and is missing you because the new gf may have dumped him?
There are just too many questions we don't know the answers to I'm afraid.
But I will tell you this...trust your gut instincts, whatever they are telling you.
Do you still love him? Have you forgiven him for the pain he's caused you? Do you think he's a good guy, or a user who can't be alone and is missing you because the new gf may have dumped him?
There are just too many questions we don't know the answers to I'm afraid.
But I will tell you this...trust your gut instincts, whatever they are telling you.
Best of luck and Merry Christmas
I do still love him. Working on the forgiving part.
I agree, you can come to terms with the end of a relationship without letting the person back into your life. Ask yourself what purpose is to be served by maintaining contact with him, particularly if you still have feelings for him.
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