How Modern Women Can Find Love When Its a Jungle Out There
Become part of a clique. Make sure it is women with similar interests to yours. If you lost contact with your high school group, now's the time to start anew. There is safety in numbers.
Flirt a little (just not “take me to bed” type flirting) It is a subtle art. Men enjoy it. You can flirt and not come off as desperate (it is all in your vibe, anyway)
If you are on a manhunt with a sense of urgency, stop it now. Men can sense this. Enjoy life more, whether you are with someone or not. If you haven't been on a date in like, 10 years, consider moving to a new town or making new (female) friends.
Quit putting out like it is going out of style. This is what is creating the mess of serial hookups and broken hearts and jerky men who start expecting sex on the first date. You can wait a while. If he is special and sees you as special, he can too. Wait a few months at least. If you are in high school, don't put out at all, not right now. It's not worth it.
Don't cohabitate with your main squeeze (read : “shack up”). It only leads to disaster. If he ever pops the question, it may be only after 5 years and an “oopsie” pregnancy (if that.) He's getting everything he wants out of this “arrangement” and it will benefit him more than you. Don't delude yourself into thinking it's a de facto marriage (because not all states recognize common law marriage.) I really think this practice should be made illegal (except in the case of gays, lesbians (who cannot legally marry in their state) and the geriatric crowd.
Read “The Rules” in its latest edition. It should be easy to find this on Amazon or similar. Read it and re-read it again if necessary. I do believe there is a new edition for the under-30 set, called “Not Your Mother's Rules” Do everything the authors say spot-on. Whatever the authors say about texting and Skype, do it. You can thank me later.
Pray about it. Your guardian angels are there to help you. Invoke their assistance.
If you are 30, 35 or even 40 and not married IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD! I repeat, it is NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. Gloria Steinem got married after that age. (I know, I think her husband died a few years later. ) And being childless is not as bad as you might think. There are adoption agencies out there. You can sponsor kids in Guatemala. And being a “crazy cat lady” is becoming more acceptable. Cats are awesome!
Be patient, and remember in the meantime there's always cats, kittens, puppies, other loving animals that will love you unconditionally. I got married at 34 which is old in terms of Southern culture, but maybe not the new American culture. I have 2 cats. And fish, and frogs and a dog. I did have hamsters but that's another story. (nope the cats didn't eat 'em
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Hope this is some help to all the single ladies out there.
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