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Where was he for the 9 months???????? Did he ever explain?
And I don't think you REALLY like him. Otherwise, why would you not have gone out by now?
He kept saying he would only explain over "dinner" and unless i go to dinner with him I wont find out..and then he did call me once..and i missed the call..and when i mentioned it to him..he said well i did try to tell u but u didnt pick up the phone..and then he kept saying the dinner thing again..
but from what he messaged me he lost contact with everyone and was having a really hard time..but to this dayt i dont kno why..
i do like him but things have always gotten in the way..not to mention i have a huge amount of pride and am kind of shy at the same time too with regards to this stuff..so none of that has helped either
and now..obviously the nine months disappearance..
So I was reading your post and was like, she has a reason to feel slighted, and then like no I wasn't, and then I thought he is working on some things and then was like no, maybe not, and then I was like, she still lost me, and then I was like, I'm almost out of milk, and then was like, this is the last regular weekend in football, and then was like oh yeah, she was asking something, and I still think that it sounds like he needs to work on somethings
LOOOL.. i know it is complicated haha
but bottom line he disappeared for nine months..didnt even bother to contact me once..now has come back and is demanding everything and wants everything on his time frame..
he says he likes me..he says he really missed me..and tht he is sorry for disappearing for so long...
and now he just wants to start again and take me out on a date..seems like thts wht he is implying..
and me being half resentful.half full of pride have ended up pushing him away and saying the wrong thing at the wrong time and not really even agreeing to seeing him..and now hes stopped speaking to me altogether..isnt calling or messaging..
You just sound really immature. REALLY immature and rather self-centered.
Here is what I would do, honest to God: Put up or shut up.
Go to dinner with the guy. Set things straight. Then either go out on a date with him or CUT HIM LOOSE. He hung around for SIX YEARS waiting for you to make up your effing mind about whether you liked him or not. Then he decided you were NOT worth it and cut off all contact, probably for his own sanity.
SO meet him, find out where he was and where he wants to go, and decide if you want that too. If you don't, tell him you won't be contacting him anymore so he can find someone else who cares about HIM.
You just sound really immature. REALLY immature and rather self-centered.
Here is what I would do, honest to God: Put up or shut up.
Go to dinner with the guy. Set things straight. Then either go out on a date with him or CUT HIM LOOSE. He hung around for SIX YEARS waiting for you to make up your effing mind about whether you liked him or not. Then he decided you were NOT worth it and cut off all contact, probably for his own sanity.
SO meet him, find out where he was and where he wants to go, and decide if you want that too. If you don't, tell him you won't be contacting him anymore so he can find someone else who cares about HIM.
I understand where youre coming from... and yes iv stopped mentioning the nine months thing to him now..i said to him he can let me kno wht happened when he wants..and tht i will leave it up to him..
However just to go back to a point u made..I dont think he waited on me for six years..we wernt even in contact for that long..there were so many breaks in between..where we just didnt tlk for months lik this one..
I doubt he waited for me for six years..im pretty sure he was open to other girls..but i guess in the end he decided im the one he liked..or maybe didnt find one suited to his tastes..but do u really think he was WAITING? as opposed to being open minded and seeing if other girls came along?
You just sound really immature. REALLY immature and rather self-centered.
Here is what I would do, honest to God: Put up or shut up.
Go to dinner with the guy. Set things straight. Then either go out on a date with him or CUT HIM LOOSE. He hung around for SIX YEARS waiting for you to make up your effing mind about whether you liked him or not. Then he decided you were NOT worth it and cut off all contact, probably for his own sanity.
SO meet him, find out where he was and where he wants to go, and decide if you want that too. If you don't, tell him you won't be contacting him anymore so he can find someone else who cares about HIM.
I highly concur. Gosh and if you're really friends, the natural thing to do once you got in contact again months or even years apart is to meet and catch up, isn't it? Coz it's what normal friends do ya know. And if you continue being a drama queen honestly just be prepared to live alone with bajillion cats. Ugh
To the OP: have some dignity. He is not interested in anything other than keeping you in the background, happy to know your attraction for him will continually feed his ego. Where was he for 9 months? Jail? Rehab? Having a baby? In the arms of another woman? People don't just disappear for no reason and I would be very suspicious of vague answers like "a tough time". So what. Life is tough for everybody. I don't buy it. He sounds like a narcissist and you are buying into his over inflated sense of self.
You have a right to a Real Relationship with a Real Person. He's either so psychologically damaged that any kind of relationship, friendship or otherwise, is toxic or he just needs to grow up. And you have to stop waiting for that magical chemistry you feel for him to catch up to the reality of the situation. Its not going to happen. If it was going to, it would have.
To the OP: have some dignity. He is not interested in anything other than keeping you in the background, happy to know your attraction for him will continually feed his ego. Where was he for 9 months? Jail? Rehab? Having a baby? In the arms of another woman? People don't just disappear for no reason and I would be very suspicious of vague answers like "a tough time".
But the OP would rather continue the drama than bow out with dignity.
Jail and/or rehab were my guesses too...
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