Dream of Traveling the World Dying Slowly!! (guy, kid, different)
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Forget it yo! You're married and on lock-down, for now. Wait till the kiddos get older; you're still have plenty of time to travel, especially when youre retired.
I think you should just wait a couple years. Your kids are very young and taking them abroad is making your wife nervous. So maybe this is not the time. As they become older and a little more self sufficient, she may be more open to travel abroad at times. You won't be too old if you wait a couple years. Also if the kids are a little older they will appreciate the experiences you can give them abroad even more.
Yes and No! I do want to take my family with the kids to a vacation but I told my wife that if we take a nice expensive vacation with kids then she has to sacrifice one visit to Ohio due to obvious cost/financial reasons. She started with excuses that no kids are too young and who will take care of kids. I said I will take care of kids and you can enjoy the nice beach, you can snorkel do anything. She hesitated and told me that kids are too young. I told her she does not even have to worry as I will take care of both the kids during the whole vacation, I will do diapers, I will feed them. I just want to go. She said "NO" kids are too young and she also did not wanted to sacrifice her visit to Ohio.
End of discussion!
What can I do? I even offered to help 100% with the kids and even then no use.
You could just go like other people have suggested and see what happens. I understand wanting to travel and feeling frustrated and tied down, but there is no magic answer that is going to let you say to her, "See, I was right!" She could be 100% unreasonable, I don't know. I do know that packing and preparing for a trip and traveling with small children is a pain in the neck. You said earlier that she can't travel by herself because you are too busy with work. My suggestion is to work toward a situation where she is free to travel. It sounds like she has been in Mom mode for four years and relying on her out-of-state family for small breaks.
IMHO the underlying issue is the OP is viewing his wife's 2x/year trips to Ohio as "her getting her dreams" in a way that's probably not too fun for him.
IMHO also there comes a time when the immediate family needs to jump into first position over visiting grandparents/aunts/uncles/cousins, especially if the family can only afford two trips a year.
I hope you are using these forums just to vent OP, because there is no piece of advice that is going to get you what you want in this situation. I guess you could keep asking her until she changes her mind, but other than that, you may have to wait until the children are older. And by the way, just because you are in your 40's doesn't mean you are falling apart. You can still do the same things you want to do today, as long as you keep yourself in good health and shape. Might as well be patient, and wait till she changes her mind
As, I mentioned she will be in Ohio with her family when I will be traveling. Her mother, brothers, sisters will also help in watching the kids. She will not be alone.
But who would watch the kids if your wife went with you?
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