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11-27-2007, 11:56 AM
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Location: Emerald Coast, FL
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Strange to be Old-Fashioned
I guess it's too much to ask for at 20 to have an "old-fashioned" relationship. You know, the whole process: courting, dating (going places and having fun together), and finally becoming "exclusive", or "going steady".
People tell me my standards are too high. Why? Because I want a guy to approach me with "Hello, my name is _____. What's yours?" instead of "Hey baby, let's get out of here."?  Or is it because I can actually picture myself being a wife by the time I'm 25?
I'm career-oriented and independent. That doesn't mean I wouldn't like to come home and be able to spend my time with someone who is happy and comfortable being with me. I would like to be the reason that someone's day is sunny. I want a person to hang out with. Someone to go places with that I also have the right to kiss whenever and wherever I want to. Best friends are great, boyfriends are better for some things.
It's not even so much marriage I'm looking for. I, myself, in the past have been known to run from deep commitment. I just want someone to share my life with. I mean, what are all of your accomplishments and joys worth if you have to keep them to yourself?
Is there anyone out there who has any idea what I'm talking about? 
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11-27-2007, 12:15 PM
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You're still young at 20. Give yourself time. You will find a guy that will turn out to be a good friend and someone that you feel comfortable with.
That's the important part....being friends....everything else will go down the drain if the going gets tough. don't settle for something that is less than you want. You have plenty of time.
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11-27-2007, 12:21 PM
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Devout Atheist Humanist
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: MA
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I understand. Part of what I believe you need to do is meet guys in the daytime. It's impossible to find a quality man after the sun sets and in a bar or club. Find activities (hobbies and sports) that you like to do and make your friends through their get togethers. I've been with my boyfriend for three years now. He's in his twenties and an old fashioned kind of guy. I refer to him as being NOS (new old stock). We met through a mutual interest in cars.  |
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11-27-2007, 12:23 PM
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Location: Emerald Coast, FL
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I like your response. I have been investing more time in the things I like to do while the sun is out. There are nice guys out there, just have to let them find you, I guess. I like the NOS reference. That's cute.
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11-27-2007, 12:28 PM
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Office Linebacker
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: New England
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Hey baby, you sound like my kinda girl. If you think you might fit the mold of the 1950's wife, why don't you check out The Good Wife's Guide and get back to me?
Edit: The foregoing was not intended to offend anyone.
On a serious note... you're doing just fine, honey. At least you know what you want, which counts for a lot. Just be true to yourself and things will be fine. |
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11-27-2007, 12:33 PM
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C.D. Court Jester
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Location: Tennessee
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"Hey baby, let's get out of here."?
Being career oriented you should just say why? I still have money.
Recognizing whats important to you and not getting caught up in the hype of "playing the game" says alot about you. You'll meet him!
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11-27-2007, 01:04 PM
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You guys are making my day. Men after my own heart...lol |
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11-27-2007, 01:08 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Emerald Coast, FL
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Quote:
Originally Posted by shuke
Hey baby, you sound like my kinda girl. If you think you might fit the mold of the 1950's wife, why don't you check out The Good Wife's Guide and get back to me?
Edit: The foregoing was not intended to offend anyone.
On a serious note... you're doing just fine, honey. At least you know what you want, which counts for a lot. Just be true to yourself and things will be fine. |
Except for bullets 10, 11, 14, & 17 I pretty much agree with the guide.
That's interesting. Where did you find it and are there similar items there? |
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11-27-2007, 04:57 PM
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Senior Member
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: San Diego, CA
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Quote:
Originally Posted by miu
I understand. Part of what I believe you need to do is meet guys in the daytime. It's impossible to find a quality man after the sun sets and in a bar or club.
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If a man is in a bar or club, there's a reason for it. His dog died, wife left him, he just got out of jail... the list goes on and on. Sometimes a guy is just having a good time with buddies, but that isn't the best time to meet said guy. Buddies are bad influences.
Get away from the bars! Only shack-up hunnys are made at bars. |
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11-27-2007, 05:45 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: huh?
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i think you need to move to utah.
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