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My opinion was that women are better at compartmentalizing their lives but that men are experts when it comes to sex. In other words, a man can love (but perhaps not truly respect) a woman and still have casual sex with another person. A woman, in my opinion, that is having sex with another man has already moved on.
So ladies, I have several questions:
1.) Has a significant other ever cheated on you?
2.) What was his reason for doing so?
3.) Why do YOU think he cheated? I don't mean reasons like "he was a self-absorbed jerk." Why was he a self-absorbed jerk?
I was cheated on by my high school sweetheart with hookers and strippers. He spent all of our wedding money on them. I was 18 and very good looking at the time. In fact, the strippers were not very good looking as they worked in a bar roughnecks visited.
He was a young and immature guy who did not want to be in a serious relationship.
It was a blessing for me and I am happy that it happened. I would be divorced if it didn't.
1) Yes, my ex-husband. I'm pretty sure there were a couple of college boyfriends, too, but they don't really count.
2) My ex-H's reason was that we had been estranged for a very long time, and he was lonely -- was desperate for companionship. There drug addiction involved (his), which was the reason I was no longer attracted to him, physically, mentally, or emotionally.
3) He would also say that he cheated because he was very lonely and because we hadn't really felt like a "couple" for years. The only difference would be he would deny that his drug addiction had anything to do with it.
No idea other than a general, overarching unhappiness in life that affected most of his decisions. He didn't offer a reason up. I don't know if HE knew why. We broke up, I moved out, and we parted ways/ceased contact for good.
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3.) Why do YOU think he cheated? I don't mean reasons like "he was a self-absorbed jerk." Why was he a self-absorbed jerk?
The aforementioned general unhappiness. In life in general, every time he wanted something, he would work very hard to get it, and then upon getting it, be instantly unhappy with it and jaded by it, because it was never the magic thing that he hoped would make him happy, and toss away whatever he'd gained or worked for as worthless and unimportant. He also grew up with parents where adultery was the norm, and looked upon with a shrug. He spent, and probably will continue to spend, much of his life perpetuating vicious cycles trying to find some external key to happiness and failing.
I got inklings of this early on in the five years we were together, but naively didn't truly believe that it would ultimately affect our relationship...lesson learned. Be with people who know how to be happy, not with people who truly believe that the world always owes them more than what they have.
My opinion was that women are better at compartmentalizing their lives but that men are experts when it comes to sex. In other words, a man can love (but perhaps not truly respect) a woman and still have casual sex with another person. A woman, in my opinion, that is having sex with another man has already moved on.
So ladies, I have several questions:
1.) Has a significant other ever cheated on you?
2.) What was his reason for doing so?
3.) Why do YOU think he cheated? I don't mean reasons like "he was a self-absorbed jerk." Why was he a self-absorbed jerk?
I've not been cheated on that I know of. I tend to attract (and get involved with) men who are very loyal - to a fault.
1.) Has a significant other ever cheated on you? Yes.
2.) What was his reason for doing so? I wasn't physically attractive enough for him.
3.) Why do YOU think he cheated? I don't mean reasons like "he was a self-absorbed jerk." Why was he a self-absorbed jerk?
He was into short, petite blonde women and I'm a 6'1 curvy redhead. He only stayed with me because I payed for most of our living expenses while he was in school. He was an excellent actor as I really had no idea how he felt.
1.) Has a significant other ever cheated on you? Yes
2.) What was his reason for doing so? He didn't know but he was really sorry
3.) Why do YOU think he cheated? I don't mean reasons like "he was a self-absorbed jerk." Why was he a self-absorbed jerk? We were young at the time (in our 20s), it was there for the taking (he was VERY good looking) and he didn't think he would get caught
1.) Has a significant other ever cheated on you? Yes, my first husband. Thank gosh I'm long rid of that nut job.
2.) What was his reason for doing so? Apparently he fantasized about taking a girl's virginity, and he wanted to fulfill that fantasy.
3.) Why do YOU think he cheated? I don't mean reasons like "he was a self-absorbed jerk." Why was he a self-absorbed jerk? He cheated on me with an underage high school girl he met online (he'd evidently never watched to catch a predator). He was a disgraceful excuse for a man and had a power complex which included very young girls. Apparently they were 'in love' and 'dating'. *shudders*
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I would be divorced if it didn't.
