New GF meets the Ex - wise or not (divorced, affair, friends)
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^^^ Good point! Why make your new girlfriend uncomfortable? And you might make her feel like mere arm candy that you only date for her looks (a real girlfriend would want to be appealing for her inner qualities also).
Without reading the other replies, I just want to add my take.
I've been in your new gf's position- do you & her both a big favor & don't have them get together. It's really pointless, actually.
I endured that same type of scenario, not knowing any better-
I shouldn't have.
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Originally Posted by miu
^^^ Good point! Why make your new girlfriend uncomfortable? And you might make her feel like mere arm candy that you only date for her looks (a real girlfriend would want to be appealing for her inner qualities also).
Thanks. This answers the questions. She is very appealing beyond just her looks or we would not have been dating the last year.
I can't imagine an Ex and a current GF actually enjoying being at a small party in the same room together.
Maybe we just stay home and have our own party at halftime.
I am left with the distinct, undeniable impression this thread was created solely to gloat that he has an attractive new girlfriend and that's it. The public approval from dating her and exposing her to any of his friends just wasn't enough. Chest pounding - pure and simple.
Hmmm... it seems as if the OP only wants permission to gloat. If things with him and the ex are really as he says, I can't think of any other reason for this thread.
Nah, that's no Rakin
He is more concerned about everyone's comfort level.
Personally Rakin I think it would be better if this were not the first time your ex is meeting the new girlfriend.
Can you find a way to introduce them ahead of the party? This would help them to BOTH be more comfortable by the time of the Super Bowl party.
Personally Rakin I think it would be better if this were not the first time your ex is meeting the new girlfriend.
Can you find a way to introduce them ahead of the party? This would help them to BOTH be more comfortable by the time of the Super Bowl party.
Thanks, you're right. It's certainly not an ego thing. It's too small of a party and too soon since the divorce to bring the 2 together to meet. There will always be another Superbowl.
Yeah, surprised me too, but it is what it is and was repeated several times in this thread. "Personally, it would be great to show up with a tall-attractive blonde," and he actually used the word 'trophy' ugh. He has since removed those tidbits from his postings.
Yeah, surprised me too, but it is what it is and was repeated several times in this thread. "Personally, it would be great to show up with a tall-attractive blonde," and he actually used the word 'trophy' ugh. He has since removed those tidbits from his postings.
No you are mistaken. I never used the term trophy in my OP and would never refer to someone I date as a trophy.
Thanks. This answers the questions. She is very appealing beyond just her looks or we would not have been dating the last year.
I can't imagine an Ex and a current GF actually enjoying being at a small party in the same room together.
Maybe we just stay home and have our own party at halftime.
Rakin, I shouldn't be surprised ppl jumped all over you,
but I kinda am. You're one of the more insightful posters,
& still got the wrath of cd, lol
A new gf & an ex--
no reason to go there, ever.
For my situation, she was invited to all the family functions, holidays, etc. I was very naive, & it wasn't worth the stress.
Anyhow, yes, indeed do a little something with just the two of you...
I'm sure you won't regret it
That's the thing... she is the current GF so I do owe her the 1st considerations. These are very old close friends where the Ex will want to go, she sees them and remains close friends also.
I do have so much positive things in my life it's unbelievable. Do you not like to be with someone that you (and others) consider attractive ? I'm certainly not that shallow but I am also human.
Well, you do have to consider the fact that when people divorce, they don't both always get to keep the friends AND attend the same parties AND have their new GF/BF on their arm while they do it.
If you had remarried, this might be different, maybe... because you say you and the ex get along well enough.
Why is it important to be seen at a super bowl party with an attractive GF? I mean, surely your old friends are close enough (by your admission) that they wouldn't care what your GF looked like as long as you're happy, right?
I don't think I'd want to go to any party enough to be stuck in a room with my ex and a bunch of people who I don't know, but who know my BF and his ex wife and BOTH of them are there.
That's just weird.
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