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A part of me is doing this to punish her coz i was her first love but an even bigger part of me has too much self respect to fall back in her trap. Which is why i am in NC
Im def. not even considering ever speaking to her again. at the same time, i just feel robbed off of the 2.5 yrs i spent loving somebody and then they cheat and live pain free. So, i was wondering if it is truly pain free? Coz i know she is bothered by me cutting her out
Do not stop the NC.
I'm sure she feels some pain but she has her little cheating buddy to soothe that, now doesn't she?
I think she's messaging you because she thinks you're gonna break down and talk to her. Don't do it.
I would block her if I were you so you can move on.
Sounds like you want to kiss her off, but not the pain you feel? Why do her feelings even matter if you aren't still attached to her? Are you suffering to get her attention? Or do you just like to feel this way?
Is the guilt felt by a cheater comparable to the pain felt by the person cheated on?
My Ex cheated on me and she shows quite some guilt, but do you think it is even remotely comparable to the pain i am currently going through?
She still messages me and does something once every 10 days to get my attention without any response from me. I have been NC with her for 5 months now.. Just wondering What do you'll think about the power of guilt of cheating? Any stories ?
The vast majority of cheaters feel no guilt whatsoever.
The vast majority of cheaters feel no guilt whatsoever.
When i was leaving her for good and stopped replying to her, she was threatening me with suicide..now she seems comfortable not having me in her life coz she has her cheating buddy who she is official with..
at the same time she emails me asking me to be best friends with her again and tells me she feels lost..
she is just full of manipulation..
the worst part is, i would have never predicted this when i was dating her.. its like she was engulfed by a demon or something.. strangest experience i have had.. never seen anybody flip switches like this..
dont know if she is settlin with this fellow coz she cant have me anymore or whatever, but i just dont see how she feels no guilt after i gave her my everything.. i have never regretted knowing somebody as much as i regret knowing her.. i hate that this was my first relationship
I've cheated before and been cheated on. And I can tell you in my humble opinion, it's much harder to cope being the cheater. Especially if it's an ongoing thing. It's fun for about two weeks, then it sucks! And I don't care how good she is at sex or anything else. The hiding, worrying, guilt, lying and on and on; suck the living life right the hell out of you!
I'm ashamed I cheated at one point in my life. I spent two weeks thinking I was on top of the world and two years dealing with the fallout trying to keep the then steady woman in my life from finding out, while pacifying the one I cheated with from finding out too. A true three ring circus I kept alive and well for two years. And to think after two weeks, I wanted it done, but it lingered that long.
As for the flip side, the girl who cheated on me, I was truly in love with. It was like death, but it came sudden I was crushed and moved on, eventually. But I think this is part of the reason I ended up cheating. Before this happened to me, I could not fathom it.
When i was leaving her for good and stopped replying to her, she was threatening me with suicide..now she seems comfortable not having me in her life coz she has her cheating buddy who she is official with..
at the same time she emails me asking me to be best friends with her again and tells me she feels lost..
she is just full of manipulation..
the worst part is, i would have never predicted this when i was dating her.. its like she was engulfed by a demon or something.. strangest experience i have had.. never seen anybody flip switches like this..
dont know if she is settlin with this fellow coz she cant have me anymore or whatever, but i just dont see how she feels no guilt after i gave her my everything.. i have never regretted knowing somebody as much as i regret knowing her.. i hate that this was my first relationship
Your first relationship. You better buck up now, because far worse things could happen and it could happen again with someone else.
Take this and people you date as learning experiences which teach you what you want and don't want in a partner. It's much more positive than beating yourself up.
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